How to experiment with other women but hate dating apps?

[Backtothenineties]

I'm 43 and married but wish I had explored my bi side when I was younger. Husband is happy for me to explore on my own but how do you find other women to meet if you feel too old for dating apps?

Maybe not. But sometimes someone posts, and it resonates with others and becomes a useful space for them to discuss their experiences.

They may not have posted with the intention of finding ‘casual hook-ups’ but as a previous thread showed, if you suddenly find yourself amongst a number of women all happily married but wishing they’d had the chance to explore, then what is the harm of them chatting to each other?

What is not needed is posters like you, who clearly dislike the sex topic, trying to police chats for possible signs that conversations may be getting too friendly 🙄. Even in real life people regularly meet others in places not designed to be for ‘hook-ups’!

What is not needed is posters like you, who clearly dislike the sex topic, trying to police chats for possible signs that conversations may be getting too friendly

They are needed to stop the ‘man here, 67, married, not getting any at home’ type posts. Mumsnet don’t want them, they encourage reports.

You aren’t getting your hook up thread back I’m afraid. 🤣

I don't have a problem with the sex topic @HappyHumpDay - I often read it myself.

I do have a problem with the sleaziness that it attracts. And people looking for hook-ups is a part of that.

Those on this topic are supposed to police it themselves, which clearly they don't. So forgive me if I do it, when I see something when I'm reading the topic.

The OP asked a very specific question asking where she could meet people other than on dating apps. She wasn't inviting users on here to hook up with her.

Yet again, a perfectly reasonable thread gets derailed and will probably end up deleted.

The OP asked a very specific question asking where she could meet people other than on dating apps. She wasn't inviting users on here to hook up with her

Really?!

Those on this topic are supposed to police it themselves, which clearly they don't.

That's because the OP has not asked for people to hook up with. She asked for suggestions as to where she can try.

Just because you have a poor opinion of everyone who posts on here doesn't mean that this OP was inviting messages.

You have no idea who reports and doesn't report things. Can you can show me the stats which show that we do not report posts that break MN rules?

I’ve seen dodgy threads/posts dated days and weeks previous. The regulars are posting and replying. Then I report and it’s deleted very quickly. That tells me the regulars aren’t reporting these posts, and when I bring mumsnets attention to them, they see them as not suitable for the site. I doubt they have received a number of reports from regulars over the days/weeks that they’ve not done anything with and then decide to act because I report.

I don’t think op was asking for hook ups

poor woman ! 😂

but even if she was …

why is anyone bothered by this ? As she’d only get women anyway messaging her ?
can’t see how this is an issue

@Thisisworsethananticpated

As I’m sure you probably know, the hook up threads were discussed at length on multiple threads. The issues with them were gone over and over. Some of those threads may still be in the site stuff section if you’re interested and aren’t aware of the issues or have forgotten. Lol. You may not see how they could be an issue, but mumsnet did. HTH.

Eww I don’t want the sex chat thread back.

But, there are definitely a lot of women who get to their 40s and realise they might not be as straight as they thought they were. Without Mumsnet I didn’t realise how wide spread it was. And without Mumsnet I wouldn’t have found SkirtClub.

So yes, I do think it’s a genuine discussion and the sex chat is a good place for it. No one is inviting others to PM them or looking for hook-ups.

OP try the Feeld app.

But, there are definitely a lot of women who get to their 40s and realise they might not be as straight as they thought they were. Without Mumsnet I didn’t realise how wide spread it was.

Yes, there does seem to be a lot on here. Make of that what you will when there have been so many issues with men on here, and gay and bi women being fetishised IRL and online. 🤔

HappyHumpDay

exactly , agree

Not sure what you're trying to imply with your last comment @BackToOklahoma are you suggesting that none of the women asking that kind of question here are genuine and/or that they're all men posing as bi / curious women? 🤷🏼‍♀️

That's definitely not been my experience, everyone I've met via MN has been lovely!