Boring sex.

[bookquite]

So I've been with my husband for 9 years, and our sex life has had its ups and downs. This is mainly due to hormonal changes in myself, stress, children, and so on..
But I'd say in the last year and half, our sex life has been amazing. However, I am finding the sex really boring and vanilla. My husband has a high sex drive and is willing to do a lot. He's been so open to trying most things. We've tried different ways to spice up things like toys, different positions, watching porn together, anal but nothing is doing it for me. I've even fantasised about having a threesome but I know he'd be 100% against it.
I think the reason I think about it is because it would be something new and exciting. I just don't know how to bring any of this up without hurting his feelings or ruining our sex life.

Please, I'd appreciate any advice or recommendation on this.

Do you get much time alone at home

Do you know what kind of sex you actually want?
a 3 up is not a realistic option for the majority of relationships so you’re on a hiding to nothing there I suspect.

We do spend time together, we have date nights, and we try our best to make time for ourselves.
On the type of sex I want, im so unsure. I just find it hard to know what I want and hard to ask. I have spoken to him about what I like, but it doesn't seem to sink in with him, if that makes sense.

Perhaps you need to get to know your body better. I love to have a play day where I spend the whole day naked and play as and when I want. Love to try lots of new masturbation techniques and ways to edge. Love playing in the shower and using toys. There are many things you could try along these lines, orgasm by nipple stimulation only, womaniser and butt plugs, shower head on clit etc. just use your imagination and let it flow, experimentation is key then slowly introduce it into your relationship. One thing we both like is mutual masturbation and watching each other play to climax took a long time to build up confidence but can be very horny