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Will abstaining for a while Improve my orgasms?

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MovedonfromMartin · 08/08/2023 00:08

I've done some googling of this, and all the answers seem to be about male orgasms and not from a female point of view. I can see the logic that if men have a break for a while it can improve certain things, but If I refrain from having an orgasm for a while, will my orgasms be better? Will they be easier to come by or last longer? What's the general feeling on this? Has anyone found any data? Or should I just crack on and stop analysing stuff!

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DixonD · 08/08/2023 01:53

From my own point of view, no, it doesn’t make a difference. What does make a difference for me is what’s “going on” at the point I have an orgasm, and it’s even better if stimulation is withdrawn just before the point of no return and then continued. That makes it more intense for me.

No extended length of time between has ever made a difference in my own experience.

FellatrixLestrange · 08/08/2023 05:29

I had an issue a few years ago where I couldn’t let go enough to orgasm. I read about Tease and Denial and we decided to give it a whirl. My rules included not being able to cum for 5 days, my DP had to bring me to the cusp of orgasm morning and night, I had to masturbate in the shower to the edge of orgasm then stop.

I was thinking about sex 24/7, I was begging him for release 😂 but he knew I’d be mad if he gave in! By day 5 I was so ready and the orgasm was such a relief!

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MovedonfromMartin · 08/08/2023 12:03

So that's a no and a yes then. Conclusive middle of the road stuff there then! I guess I'll have to work on my own data collection

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Thisismysexforumname · 08/08/2023 13:40

Interestingly (or not, depending on your pov 🤣) I find that not cumming for a while makes them happen quick and far too easy for me and not at all more intense.

I do practice edging tho, which is completely different, and similar to @FellatrixLestrange I find that when I do cum after a few days of edging, its so intense. If I have gone a couple of months (or longer) with nothing at all, the first one is quick but nothing special.

Happy researching! 😉

Anotherbloke1 · 08/08/2023 16:30

Stop start technique on either you or your partner works. My partner always cums during oral & foreplay so I'll change technique when she nears orgasm. She cums from clit stimulation so I'll change to going around it with my tounge and other parts of vagina for a few minutes then go back to including clit, doing this as long as you like will build up to a bigger orgasm, partner often squirts or really cums this way too.

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MovedonfromMartin · 09/08/2023 18:40

I wasn't actually needing my orgasms to be any more earth shatteringly epic tbh, I have enough trouble controlling myself when I have one as it is, I really did just wonder if deliberately not having one for a while would make a difference. I'm not sure I'm that willing to go without to find out!

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eliseH1998 · 09/08/2023 21:05

For me, it seems to be the other way around, the more I get the more I want and the more sexual I feel so I'm not sure abstaining would be good for me.

For my husband, it is quite the opposite and he's said a number of times that the longer he goes between orgasms the more intense they are for him. He didn't used to but for the last couple of years he has tried to reduce and abstain from masturbating so that his orgasms are less frequent. for this reason. I don't mind if he does not but he can go for long periods now without masturbating at all.

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MovedonfromMartin · 10/08/2023 00:13

@eliseH1998 I think I'm with you, abstaining for many men helps but makes no difference for me. I've had a couple of times over the past year when I've had times when I've been unable to get up to anything satisfying and the first time after that has been overwhelmingly thrilling and hot but it was all a bit too much for me and my orgasm to cope with.

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Vettrianofan · 13/08/2023 20:24

As above, I enjoy denying myself a quick one and will slow down the pace to get a big O. I can do this several times in a day and it's still as intense. The frequency for me makes no difference.

AbraKadabraPoof · 13/08/2023 22:45

I like to put off orgasms during a session for a more intense one, although actually abstaining for days/weeks I don’t think works for me because I’ve never noticed a change

MaryJean87 · 13/08/2023 22:58

If I don't cum for a few days, when I do give in I orgasm really quickly. I don't think it affects how intense my orgasms are, it's purely just the speed they occur.

AbraKadabraPoof · 13/08/2023 23:01

MaryJean87 · 13/08/2023 22:58

If I don't cum for a few days, when I do give in I orgasm really quickly. I don't think it affects how intense my orgasms are, it's purely just the speed they occur.

That makes sense, I suppose I can be the same depending on the time

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