Wishing I had encountered sex with a woman

[LdyLove]

I’m a woman and married to a man, I’m 40 and we have children together. When I was late teens, I had a brief encounter with another girl, all soft stuff, really enjoyable but I never did it again. I have quite recently been thinking more about my experiences and how much I would have liked to experience having sex with another woman.
Does anyone else feel the same, I know that opportunity has sailed now but it doesn’t stop me from thinking about it.

My first time was with a woman but then I decided I wanted the whole normal relationship so found a guy had kids and lived life.
But as I got older and into my forties I got a craving (can't think of a better word 🤣) for women again.
I've now got a fwb who I see probably once a week and we have a lot of fun but we don't want a relationship .
I think alot of ladies get a bit of curiosity as they age.

Hey @LdyLove

I totally know what you mean, there is something really special about being with another girl.

I don’t really consider myself to be bisexual as I’ve now got a bf but when I was in university on of my housemates and best friends was a lesbian.

During lockdown there was one night where we were drinking and I got curious about it and we started talking then one thing led to another.

We were pretty much fwb for 2 years in uni after that but I haven’t been with a girl since. I do miss it but don’t really know where to find the opportunity and now I’m in a relationship I have stopped looking.

I did wonder if when women get older, they often do think more about their sexuality as a whole. It’s only been a recent thing for me. I won’t ever act on my thoughts but I think it will be something that will be on my mind for quite some time.

I can assure you that it's not just women who wonder about their sexuality as they age.

You're definitely not alone!

Many women our age had experiences or crushes when they were younger but the prevailing attitude of homophobia back then and the general expectation that life would follow the 'normal' route of meeting a man, getting married and having babies led many of us to ignore or suppress any same sex attractions or pass it off as a phase/ one off. Other women may be experiencing their curiousity for the first time as they get older, kids growing up, hormones, mid-life re-evaluation of life... Who knows what kicks it into action, but it definitely happens!

I still think our generation holds onto some of that homophobia though, when I hear it's 'just' sex / I wouldn't want a relationship with a woman etc... I wonder how much of that is because we've grown up being shown/ told that a 'real' relationship is m/f and haven't been able to shake that view ourselves.

If I could have my time again I'd have been much braver and less worried about what people thought and probably have been a whole lot happier!

There have been occasions where I’ve looked at a woman and felt an overwhelming sense of attraction I’ve never felt before, not sexual thoughts but just an attraction to their femininity, the way they smile, carry themselves. I am glad I am not alone.

I can kind of relate to this, although I have has sex with a woman on one occasion and I have been thinking about this a lot lately.

Back in my twenties, I was seduced over a number of months by a very beautiful friend. For a while I did wonder if I was noticing signs that she might have been attracted to me, but assumed that I was misreading the signals because I couldn't understand why anyone so stunningly gorgeous would be interested in me.

Eventually we ended up spending a highly enjoyable night of passion together, but I kind of panicked when the next day she asked me to have a relationship with her, because of my own insecurities and didn't feel worthy of being in a relationship with such an incredible person.

Now after nearly twenty years of being married to a bloke, I do sometimes look back on that evening and wonder what it would have been like to explore a relationship with a woman.

I also sometimes feel regret limiting my lesbian experience to just that evening and wonder if I have now missed the opportunity to ever have that kind of intense pleasure ever again.

My DW is connected with a community of bisexual, Pan and LAM (Lesbian after marriage) women - it's apparently very common.

I’ve never ever been attracted to women but I went to a concert a couple of months ago, an all afternoon / evening outdoor thing and we got chatting to a group of ladies sitting next to us. I was pretty drunk, but for some reason felt a real connection to one of the women, and she felt it too. We danced, and hugged a lot. I think I gave her my number (if I even recalled it correctly) but thankfully she didn’t contact me. I was quite horrified that I felt this way, I’m not sure why horrified as absolutely nothing wrong with same sex relationships but it’s just nothing that’s ever interested me before and I don’t look at women and think that. I hope it just remains a one off bizarre experience and I’m glad nothing happened

Yes. As a teenager I snogged my friend a couple of times. We did it for shock value (we were a bit rebelious) but ot did turn me on. But then again almost everything did at that age.

I am now 50. Peri menopausal and going through all sorts of reflective nd strange feelings about sex and life. Feelings and past experiences. Lesbian sex is a regular theme popping up in my mind.

@Pastryapronsucks , I am a similar age to you. Do you watch any F&F porn?

I think it’s because we are conditioned to reproduce with the male species, there’s nothing horrifying about feeling a connection with another person whether it’s the same or opposite sex though.

I have a date with a woman later, we will be spending time together tomorrow. I hope we spend the night together.

Yes I do, but it makes the the urge even greater. I am in a very long term relationship which is on the whole very good. I don't think he would countenance opening the relationship or having a threesome.

I had a similar experience at university, one night with another women which was led by her and lovely. I am in my 40s now and got divorced and had a couple of experiences since, again really lovely but ended up settling back to a man

Yes and no. It is one of the main things that realy gets me going. But I prefer erotic literature. Porn is just too false/staged.