DP and I have an active and fulfilling (for me for sure) sex life. It’s the most loving, close and fun sex I’ve ever had with a partner. We are a bit vanilla but that’s totally fine for me, we do branch out into different things sometimes like toys and lube but nothing wildly adventurous.
DP is quite shy and body conscious, I am always giving him compliments but not over doing it! DP tells me he gets insanely turned on very fast by me, so light kissing and touching and being undressed together he enjoys a lot and when we first met he was embarrassed by this as he prematurely orgasms. I find it arousing to see him turned on he is never letchy and he will always wait for me to give him signals to proceed with anything. He doesn’t grope me inappropriately or objectify me.
It doesn’t take him long to recover (and he’s very attentive and skilled to me during this time) so then we have sex and I always have an orgasm. We do lots of different positions and speeds too. He is never able to finish the second time although he gets close, as he starts to over think that I might be uncomfortable or it’s going on too long for me and worrying about it.
We usually then wind it down and cuddle and then we might try again later or the morning. I’ve offered him oral and my hands but he feels quite self conscious so I don’t do this unless he is comfortable with it. He says once he starts to worry I might be uncomfortable this distracts him and puts him off.
We don’t drink alcohol often but if he has had a drink or 2 he can always finish during sex as I think he is more relaxed. However I cannot seem to have an orgasm even after 1 glass of alcohol as it makes me feel blurry!
He says he is completely fulfilled by our sex life and I should not worry, having sex with me is not an objective to have an orgasm he just loves me and the whole experience which I agree, if I don’t then I am not upset but I almost always do so I feel bad he doesn’t. Am I also over thinking this? Any men can shed any light on it?