Can only come if I touch myself during sex

[NewmemyselfandI]

Whenever I had sex before I got marrried I enjoyed it but probably faked all orgasms as was too embarassed to touch myself while doing it. Then with ex learned what worked for me which was any position that allowed that. Now with new partner, in my 40s, sex is better than ever but as much as I love oral and all the foreplay I can still only come when he is inside me but I'm touching myself. We often cum together, it's amazing but I wonder if many women are the same? I tried to cum with penetration only and came close, specially when I'm on him, but never quite got there... :( It didnt seem to bother ex and new partner says its hot, we also enjoy masturbating each other but he can never get the right pressure/rhythm and I need to interject - he can't quite get the angle right 😁

No, I don't have that problem but as long as you're cumming one way or another I don't think it really matters.

Sounds fine to me, especially as you can both come at the same time. I often come when on top, I think because I get the friction and need that to have an orgasm.

I can cum from oral but I find the more turned on the easier it happens. Sometimes it can take up to 40 minutes and I almost give up. I have a very understanding partner who loves to please me so tries everything he can

OP, like others have said, I don't think there is a problem here. Don't worry about the route you take to get there, just enjoy the journey and the arrival. I climax fairly easily from oral and manual stimulation, not from penetration, it still feels lovely though and it has never bothered me.

@maclen - 40 minutes is not so long for a good positive celebration.

As for touching yourself, as long as you have the confidence (and all positive women should), that's a good thing.

Enjoy yourself x.

Ah thanks everyone! I guess maybe I know the "shortcut" and perhaps dont wait long enough for oral or penetration to get me there... 40min feels like ages 🤣 but I'll talk to him and give it a go.

Agree me on top helps as can control pressure and friction but then I get probably tired before I get there 🤦‍♀️

But yes I feel comfortable with how it is now and I still enjoy everything else, just struggle to climax otherwise.

Lots of people can't come from penetration alone. I sometimes do, but it's much less intense than if my clitoris is involved.

For more stimulation during sex though, a small pillow underneath your bottom (in missionary), your hips (if lying face down) or his hips (if you're on top) can do lovely things.

A pillow under your hips can also help with the angle when he touches you. A fun experiment, anyway!

I don't see it as a problem it would certainly turn my partner on even more if I touched myself.