Underwhelmed

[howwasitforyou]

Pushing 50 and dating again now that my children are a bit older... it's been a long time since I had sex, but have started seeing someone and we spent the night together for the first time this weekend. And it was all a bit meh... he barely got hard enough to penetrate me, and when he managed, I could hardly feel anything. He seemed to have a great time - amazing orgasms apparently (despite the floppy cock), but I was left feeling a bit frustrated...
So I guess I'm interested in knowing whether erection issues like this are par for the course for a man in his late 50s? Is it likely to be a case of first night nerves - though he didn't appear nervous and didn't say/do anything to suggest he thought there was anything amiss. I like him, and and don't want to give up on this straight away, but unsure how to broach the subject sensitively.
Any advice?

It sounds very much like first time nerves. Was he attentive to your needs?

Ish.... I think he tried to be, and I think I wasn't very good at expressing what I wanted, but my experience of the whole things was that it was a bit clumsy and awkward, and his seemed to be that it was amazing - hence my wondering if this is just normal as men age.
But good to hear that things may well improve with a bit of time...

Probably a mixture of both TBH, ED can be an issue with us older gents, but there are pills etc.
nervous certainly play a part with someone new, which in turn does help with the ED

also if the partner doesn’t express what they like or don’t like , that’s not the most helpful thing

but practice helps

Truth be told, most first times are clumsy and awkward, but things will improve once you both understand what floats each other's boat.

Viagra

Cialis. Cialis works 48hrs I think.

@Wakemeup17 yes, at least 36 hours and sometimes longer in my experience. I can highly recommend. It is also unaffected by eating food. Viagra usually works best on an empty stomach.

Cialis is a brand name for tadalafil. It is available by prescription at high street pharmacies and online with reputable chemists.

Viagra is the brand name for sildenalfil the first and most well known medication for ED. It can be very effective but lasts only around six hours.

Neither Cialis nor Viagra is a magic pill to give you an instant erection. You have to be turned on first for it to work.

Of course the reasons behind the issue that OP has with her new man might be something else entirely and which may not need medication - eg first time nerves. Or if it's ongoing, something he needs to run by his GP.

I should add OP that for men in their fifties (I am one) erections can sometimes be a bit more hitty-missy and less firm. If not every time then at least once in a while which can lead to a downward spiral of belief that it's going to happen each time...which then it can start to.

Occasional use of Viagra and now Cialis broke this cycle for me and gave me reassurance that pretty much every time I'm ready for action.

Posting from my experience of dating older men. I have had a couple who, just like you, said they had a great time but I felt absolutely nothing. However, apart from that, most of the men have been amazing. They have made sure I am satisfied, been present, and fun. So I would say, give him another chance but if he is still not expressive or catering to your needs too, then it might be time to move on.