enjoying sex as a big women

[oneoddwomen]

Married for 10 yrs and during that time i went from a size 14 to a size 20.
Dh insists he still finds me attractive and especially my large boobs and ass but he doesn't find big women attractive and i know that. I can't enjoy sex as i dont want him to see me naked. I miss having good sex that i can relax but i cant. I normally enjoy abit of bdsm and being submissive but not anymore:(

I went from a size 16 to a 12 this year. I'm quite attractive facially and have a small waist so I got away with being a bit plumper, but it was impacting my confidence. I know my DH fancies me at any size, but I did it for me. If it's making you feel bad and ruining your sex life, the only thing I can suggest is weight loss. I know how hard it is though and you have to lose it for the right reasons, not because of somebody else.

Should've mentioned that iam loosing weight ( almost a stone so far!!) but i yo yo alot so want to do it slowly so it stays off.

Well done, that's the best way. It's a lot more sustainable than going too strict.

Well done losing weight, I've got the opposite problem I feel that am too thin not curvy enough during sex and generally feel very unattractive. It affects sex life with DP, sex tends to be in dark under covers. It's so nice that your DH tells you that you are attractive. (no affection or compliments in this end) Enjoy the compliments 😁

There are a lot of me, myself included that find bigger women extremely attractive. Your husband is very lucky to have you, as I’m sure he feels.

I have added on two stone due to perimenopause and my husband has put on weight as well. I haven’t been that bothered by it and neither has my husband. But today we are both starting a diet. We do like to sometimes at the weekend have a couple of go arounds in one session and we got the point where that wasn’t possible becuase of being so shattered.

im not wanting my weight to take that away from me so the diet has started. If ur husband loves u he will be fine. Mine says he would think I am sexy if I was wearing a black sack 😂. But it sure does make things easier especially if he is on top not to have that weight.

You are the woman he married and you are the woman he wants to have sex with, and he finds you attractive, sounds like something to be pleased about really

Im going to try and find ways ( new underwear etc) to feel sexy again. I think when that happens i will start enjoying it more hopefully!!

If you are really motivated to feel sexy then lose the weight and stick to it. Not sure how old you are but it's easier under 40 I found to lose weight. Get a PT at the gym, get your earring right and in a few months you will feel amazing and healthier!