Resuming Intimacy.

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My husband and I have started being having sex again after a long time when I went off any intimacy due to Menopause. I suffered from depression and anxiety for years and couldn't bear the thought of being touched intimately never mind full sex. I have now been given anti anxiety tablets by my GP which have made me feel better and more like my old self. My problem is I orgasm quickly, sometimes gripping my husbands leg, sometimes with him fully. However he takes what seems like a long time to finish. I masturbate so know how I feel after I've come - I just want to lie there and feel everything. I help my husband out, guiding him with my hand, or he finishes himself off but I don't know if he's happy with this after so long a period of unwanted celibacy. He likes to lie with me in his arms after but all I want to do is get up and clean myself down. How can I improve things for both of us. Julia

Firstly I would say he's delighted to have that intimacy again. Secondly just let it develop & talk to each other about what you want.
I find the talking about our desires one of the most erotic things between us. It should make your bond closer.

I say that you need to talk about all that you expressed as above and one other thing time.

After a long time from intimacy it is not something that you start and go back to where it started.

Good luck OP

Do not be in a rush to clean yourself. Hug and kiss and enjoy the feelings. My wife and I do all the time no rush to get clean.

Thank you for the replies. The subject of intimacy has become The Elephant in the Room with us, we both avoid saying anything. I feel that because I masturbate and enjoy the feeling of well being afterwards that doesn't help my husband. I did say he seemed to take a long time to finish but he says it takes as much time as it used to and it isn't a long time. We will make an effort to talk.Julia.