Resisting oral

[Bluebaron1]

Staring dated in January and started sleeping together after 6 weeks or so. Bit slow for me but I went with it as really liked the girl.
after another month or so I raised the question of oral sex. Both giving and receiving as she wasn’t very keen and we hadn’t gone there. She told me she only did that if she felt secure and loved etc. no worries I thought.
fast forward now dating 3/4months and I raised it again to be told if you ask I won’t do it. Ok I thought no pressure.
fast forward to six months in I raise it again and was told “I told you if you ask I won’t do it” (hmm I havnt mentioned it for three months).
Getting the impression I’m being strung along here. Now been dating 7 months she’s pregnant with my baby!!!! And she still won’t go there.
not sure if I’m being insensitive here but come on, if it’s not your thing maybe just say so early on?
she’s still saying I do enjoy it but I need to feel ready!

Are you the same poster who keeps posting about this? I think you are. Apologies if you're not but you really need to give it a rest, regardless. There's nothing more unattractive or sinister than a whining male who is trying to force a woman into doing something sexual she doesn't want to do.

7 months together and pregnant? I think you have other things to be concerned about.

Erm, a baby has now been conceived.
Where does oral sex now fit into the equation?

Sounds like she’s not that keen on it no, and maybe just doesn’t want to say. Guy I’ve been seeing recently went straight in before we had sex, and I was delighted having had relationships with men happy to receive oral, but not give! In fact he loved giving oral sex so that was a massive bonus for me. But it is more intimate in some ways, I can get what she means. I guess you need to consider the fact it’s unlikely to happen, if it does great, if not well something you have to accept

Your thread title gives me the ick!!

'Resisting' sounds like you are trying to force her to do something... That's probably how she feels too.

How about you hear what she's saying to you which is No, she doesn't want to do that at the moment. She know you want to so I'm sure if she changes her mind she'll let you know.

Stop asking her, there's nothing less sexy than a sex pest!

Try asking her what she does want.

Yes, I agree. Ick and sex pest.

DW is generally happy giving but really doesn’t like receiving, used to love it, not sure what changed, I just accept that’s what she enjoys now and don’t constantly go on at heras that basically would eventually destroy the whole relationship, maybe you should accept she doesn’t want to do it .