How to communicate "humiliation kink"?

[BobOn]

My DW doesn't get why anyone would find it sexy to be verbally humiliated during sex.

She's said she doesn't mind doing this, however she's concerned for my wellbeing and doesn't want to hurt my feelings.

I've found a suitable cosmo article which I'm hoping to share with her this evening.

If you've been the person wanting this, or the person being asked to do this, what caused the "light bulb" moment for you?

You're trying to introduce BDSM into a (presumably) previously vanilla marriage?
The article may be a good starting point but once she's read it you probably need to have a very open conversation about preferences. Be specific! You might just be wanting her to tell you you're the most pathetic lover she's ever had and she has to fantasise about your brother while she's fucking you, just to get off. She, on the other hand, might read that article and go straight to pissing in your face iyswim? So be specific.
The risk is that she just might not be into it at all and then you'll both have to figure out if the incompatibility is something you can live with or not.

Thanks @Swishytwip

sorry if I gave the wrong impression. We’ve already had those conversations and while she’s not getting of on it herself, she’s happy to facilitate my kink.

btw, what you said made me laugh, but they are way more “out there” than what I’m into.

this was more to help her “get” why I like a certain type of humiliation.

My FWB asked me outright to humiliate him. He knew I had not done that before so gave me some clues over drinks (asked me to tell him that he was worthless, had a small co(k etc).
it felt a bit strange at first but seeing his face when I got into the flow and the way he got hard just from me talking at him, gave me all the encouragement I needed

Thanks @Bengal12
this approach seems to be working for us too