Anyone have any threesome experiences to share?!

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Me and my DH had a threesome for the first time a few weeks ago. Went really well. Just wondering if anyone else has positive experiences and what positions you tried?

I want to have another as does the DH find it quite difficult to find anyone to hook up with though despite the usual apps haha

They can be positive if you are both doing it for the right reasons and are both fully invested.

With regards to finding a partner it depends what you are looking for. Its a hell of a lot easier to find a man to join a MF couple. Finding a female to join a MF is more difficult because a lot of men online tend to just want to sleep with the woman and not get involved in any play with the man

A good threesome should be about all parties being involved and having an enjoyable experience

I've had a lot. The last at the weekend. Lol. You need to find someone who you both get on with. That person needs to understand they are just a bit of fun for the couple. Not to be too pushy and not to take their part in the dynamic too seriously.

Was it with a female or a male? How did you meet them? It's something me and my partner would like one day in the future but I'd literally have no clue how to go about it 🙈

First of all decide if you want a male or female third person and what level of involvement they will have.
I.e if you have another female are you both allowed to play with her. If its a man again are you both allowed or will your partner just watch?

Potentially you could look down the trusted friend route but its risky and could ruin friendships aside from that the usual places like fabswingers but be prepared for lots of messages

Nope!

Please don't go down the friend route. Some things need to be kept seperate from everyday life.

I've had a few, both MFM & FFM - thouroughly enjoy them!

It's perfectly possible to enjoy threesomes with a friend and a long term partner. I've done this and not found it to be too much of a problem. Of course, there some friends I've drifted apart from, but that's often because people have moved away, got other jobs and so on. I've not gone out to recruit a special person to do this with; it has generally emerged with female friends with whom I've had the kind of relationship where we can talk about 'intimate life' and the conversation has turned to whether they'd ever consider having sex with a woman, and if there's any interest I've taken it from there. Then I've introduced the notion of involving my (male) partner at a later date. That seems to be the way it's gone with at least four people we've been involved with over the years. Just from being open to having that kind of conversation!

Another comment on the friends route. I was talking to a lady yesterday who did just this. With a very old female friend and her friends new fella.

Very awkward time. They haven't spoken since. It was three weeks ago. I get the impression that the friend was only doing it for her new boyfriend.

She was actually coming over as a bit insecure, as her fella and my friend were chatting and getting on a bit too well beforehand. Lol.

You need to be careful what you wish for. Lol.

M here. I had a threesome many years ago. The couple approached me via a dating website. We met initially for a coffee and chat - which quickly became flirty.

The proper meet was a lovely afternoon and very much focussed on the wife's pleasure. There was a lot of touching, much swapping of positions to try things that worked and found some that did not. We did not do any dp or anything - just lots of mouths, fingers and more.

I would happily have another - in fact as a singleton now I perhaps should look. But I am not really into the swingers sites - and you cannot really go on POF and advertise for one!