Do people who like 'swinging' always want that in their relationships?

[Lemieux7]

My ex and I recently got back together and he told me a load of stuff about how he used to do swinging with his ex wife that didn't involve PIV sex. I didn't know about this when I was with him before. He hardly told me anything.

For myself, I find that I don't want to get involved in group sex unless I'm not in a relationship because of the jealousy it causes.

So I asked him if this is something he wants to do in all relationships and he turned nasty and said I have no right to ask him about it. I don't want to be with someone who secretly craves something that would be damaging to me.

I’d assume he’s telling you this for a reason: he’s testing the waters for when he starts trying to put pressure on you to go swinging, or to excuse himself when he does it behind your back as “you knew what I like.” Most of us don’t start randomly divulging the type of sex we had with an ex just for laughs.

I’d suspect he was an ex for a reason and that’s at least partially to do with his tendency to “get nasty” about being asked questions relevant to your relationship and sex life?