Serious dating when kinky

[Taffydog]

Can anyone recommend what sites I could use to find a relationship but with someone who’s kinky. I want it the nice normal side of a relationship but also can’t do a vanilla sex life. I need someone who’s sexually dominant but want a normal partner outside the play. I don’t want to be too specific on a normal dating site as don’t want family and friends to be aware as it’s private to me. I’m on fet sort of but it’s not a good place to meet anyone - lots of predators or people who are too in the lifestyle for me. Any suggestions?

Me and DH are into kink, we met in a bar. Honestly, I truly believe kinks sniff and find each other. My best advice is to go out with friends, have a drink, loosen up, meet people in a friendly environment and be pretty open from the start.

You could always add ‘alternative’ to your dating profile, that way when questioned via message you can mention a liking for kink and it’s not out there for everyone to see.

I'm aware of FL too, but try this one.
https://datingkinky.com
Also get out in the real world, meet men/people, be open and honest, don't be afraid to be transparent. I think you'll find innumerable dominant men who enjoy the more traditional aspects of a conventional relationship just as much as kink. Good luck...

Not sure how much help I can be. But believe it or not, I met my partner on fetlife. It stated off as a d/s relationship (I'm the sub) but then turned into something way more powerful. It can happen with the right approach and a humungous amount of luck.

Have you thought about going to munches avd meeting people in person?

Just be as honest as you can be early on. You may be surprised by how many compatible people are out there :)

Thank you everyone! I don’t really get the chance to go out and about as have kids so babysitting is costly - fine if I’ve met someone and want to date them but leaves me limited to online! Also work from home so no way of meeting people through that 😂

I think luck is definitely going to be involved but there is something in the thought that kinky people have a sense for each other - maybe just need to be more relaxed and see how chats go

Just be yourself.
It's really hard, but as a submissive person, I'm not overtly assertive and confident in general life either. More quietly confident.
I think that meant that I attracted - and was attractive to - men that are more dominant (not fully alpha males, but those who recognised I was definitely not alpha myself).

Your post made me smile.
Isn't quietly confident the best?
Maybe just me but tend to think that the loudly confident are often anything but.
Enjoy your kink whatever it is.

DP and I met on Killing Kittens three years ago. I know several couples who've met on there.

Try Fetlife? Lots of kinky social (in pubs, so vanilla cloting) around.

Feeld?

but tbh I’ve seen plenty of “non vanilla” profiles on Tinder and Bumble.

I'm late to this thread but I really recommend Feeld. I met my lovely, very kinky partner on there. I find non-vanilla profiles on the mainstream dating apps kind of off-putting, but Feeld is a safe place to be honest about your sexual desires and browse other people of a similar mindset.

(The app can be glitchy but it's worth persevering).

I was doing to try Feeld but the trustpilot reviews are not good at all. Datingkinky was weird to navigate. Hope you have better luck.