Accelerated Change of Libido

[ChangedJunename]

Asking for a friend! She is starting to feel a little bit guilty because her desire for sex has increased vastly. She endured a drought of about 4 years leading to divorce. Her 2 FWBs are not enough.
Am I right that this topic has been referred to in both Threads & Posts? Women in their forties and older developing a dramatic change in there libido. Any links or reading would be appreciated.

Totally normal in peri menopause.
Tell your friend (😉) to enjoy.
Why should she feel guilty?
She might need to find more FWBs.

Did AI write this?

@MMmomDD , Thanks, the main point is that I would like to refer to some other posts and perhaps threads or other references to reassure her.
Any ideas?

She is not peri.

What was she like before her marriage?

My libido tanked when I was married due to crap husband syndrome. I initially thought it was due to menopause but now I’m divorced and have a lovely boyfriend who treats me well everything is back working as it should.

@Yetanothernamechangeagain I didn't know her pre marriage. No sex for at least 3 years I think. and just not bothered. Do you remember any threads on here?

@ChangedJunename

I don’t think there are that many threads on here on this issue. People mention ‘the surge’ and others say - yes, happened to me.
Most often it’s after sexless marriage; or bad-sex marriage. And in the 40s - it is definitely linked to peri (which is a long period, can be up to 10 years before the actual MP)
None of these are a cause of concern or a reason to be worried.

Why is she?

Crap husband syndrome 😂- I think I had that too!

I was 45.
In a sexless marriage (over a decade of no action) - 2 reasons: (1) crap husband syndrome and (2) I realised I wasn’t attracted to him (he was ten years older).
Became horny as hell a few months after my periods suddenly stopped (abruptly) and, although I felt high as a kite on sex hormones, I couldn’t stand it. I couldn’t go near my husband and, by this point, knew/thought I’d never have sex again (even though I’d never had lovely, passionate sex before as, mentioned already, I had crap husband syndrome like pp said too).

I naturally, and instinctively, started chatting to men online and flirting in real life (which I’d never done before). Got chatting to a lovely guy (who is still in my life 6 years on) and the sexual chemistry between us is intense. It woke me up to a lot of issues in my marriage and I ended it once I had met said chat friend. I feel absolutely distraught that I stayed in a dead bedroom/affection-less marriage for over 20 years!!! I’ve missed out. It took the sex surge for this to happen.
I am still very sexual but I think I always was but just with the wrong man.

My intense feelings of fanny gallops (pardon the expression) did settle down after about 9 months but my life has changed forever!!

I had no idea about the sex surge of menopause until after all of the above was done!!

Thanks everyone for your remarks and observations.
I shall ask MN to close this now, I think my friend is reading this. Very kind of you to add your own personal experiences in a tactful way..

We've closed this thread to new posts as the OP thinks their friend has probably had enough advice to contend with now. Thanks to all who offered their thoughts.