Is porn normal now for men?

[eliseH1998]

Since moving in together this year I have found porn sites on boyfriends laptop a number of times and think I have walked in on him when he's not been long finished watching it. I have asked him about it and the first time he denied it but after that has admitted that he likes to watch porn and does often.

I have no complaints about our sex life and I don't think I really mind him watching porn but somehow feel like I should for some reason, or he really shouldn't be watching it so often. Is this something that men (and women) just do now?

There are ethical porn creators out there and I fully support their right to self expression. Unfortunately a lot of women are exploited by regular porn. My DP is late 40s and doesn’t watch any porn, he has just never been interested.

Yes, porn is mainstream now. I'd imagine almost all men and quite a lot of women indulge.

Offer to watch with him, and be enthusiastic about it? You'll blow his mind.

Yes, you would be hard pressed to find a man who who doesn't watch or has never watched porn. I don't watch it and it doesnt turn me on, but I masturbate over other things that do it for me. My husband says he doesn't watch it since he's been with me. If he does secretly in private, that's up to him as I'm happy with our sex life.

I'm a woman and I watch it. It's none of my partner's business what I watch or how much, unless it started to affect our relationship

yep it's mainstream - no longer a shameful secret.

i do once remember seeing something from a woman condemning it on the basis that it presented a false view of sex/enthusiastic female participants.

well fancy that.

Don't listening to this. If this has worked for couples, then good for them, but I think it's likely to lead to a situaion where he wants or needs to watch porn with you every time you have sex.

listen*

I don't think anyone should fake being enthusiastic about porn to please their partner.

My recent bf was a big porn watcher, I knew before I started dating him. Didn’t bother me and I quite liked watching some with him, but I soon got distracted by that and focussed on him! Even if I didn’t know, I’d have guessed due to his sexual preferences / techniques let’s say!

I know someone who has a collection of Victorian porn, it's rather charming.

So, porn has been around for some time which I guess makes it normal in some sense.

I think it is a very common thing now and would not be surprised by knowing a partner, or other person, watched porn. We have talked about it a few times and my boyfriend has said he is a porn watcher and has been since his teens. I don't mind and I also watch it if I feel in the mood. We sometimes watch together and see how long we can go before we get too excited and get down to it 😁

Seems to be mostly a male thing. I have walked in on DH watching it & masturbating a few times. I went crazy the first time but now accept that they all do it lol

Yep everyone watches it.

If a man says he has never seen it, he is either a liar or thinks you are stupid.

Nope. Not this one. Leaves me cold. Much prefer the real thing with another living, breathing human being. Besides, the realities of sexual exploitation in porn are just awful.

Nope, don't watch it. I've no interest in it at all.

my and my ex-wife used it in the 90s together as an accelerant to conception...... interestingly she became a Sarah Young fan......

It is and has been already for decades. It’s nothing new. I’d say in my circles I can’t think of a friend who doesn’t watch it. Harder to say with female friends. Some will, some won’t.

What I will say is that you have no say in whether he does, when or how often, as long as he’s still fulfilling his duties within the relationship. It’s a separate thing.