DH has had erection issues for the past 2 years, he’s tried different treatments to get one and make it last but it’s rare for anything to help long term. He isn’t able to masturbate and has no desire. I didn’t feel he was doing enough to get it treated permanently so I took sex off the table. More so for my mental health as the rejection and lack of sex was beginning to upset me a lot as he didn’t consider how it was affecting me and he had no interest in pleasuring me separately.
He has now agreed to see a doctor finally, and has begun trying other methods to get our sex life back. However I’m now at the stage where I feel awkward about it. We haven’t had sex nor attempted it for at least 6 months which may not seem Long for many of you but as a once a day kind of woman it has destroyed my libido and confidence. The desire is still there for me, but resentment has got in the way overall and I’m worried we won’t be able to get back to it. I’ve got used to using sex toys alone as if I were a single woman so the thought of going back to real sex feels odd and nerve wracking. I should be happy about the possibility of us having sex again so why am I not as interested as I expected to be?
Has anyone else been through this and can relate to how I’m feeling? Is there anything I can do to get my self confidence back and work on feeling comfortable enough to fix our sex life? Any tips welcomed