Orgasm from BJ

[MrsBrollie]

I’ve been with my DH for nearly 11 years and in all that time I think he has orgasmed from me giving him a blow job on 2 occasions. He gets very close and his legs start to twitch but I can’t seem to get him over the edge. I’m sure if I spent longer I could get him there but after 15 minutes my jaw is in agony and I lose all interest in carrying on.

how common is it for men to climax from oral?

DP says that uncertainty increases his excitement

Is the simple things. @Slipndipgirl

I always orgasm (when that's the intention) when receiving oral sex. Either when she's using her mouth or a combination of her mouth and hands. As you say your husband is nearly, nearly there and I'm just wondering what's needed to get him over the edge?

I ask that because there was a period of a few months a number of years ago when out of the blue I found I was getting to the very edge but couldn't come during oral, something which had never happened before. On reflection now I think it had to do with distracting work-related stress at that time which meant my mind wasn't on the job (sorry, pun intended). It probably happened only a couple of times but it was sufficient for me to tense up and believe I couldn't come from oral any more. And for a while I couldn't/didn't. It became a self-fulfilling (very frustrating) prophecy. Trying to have an orgasm just made the problem worse.

What didn't help was the thought that DW might think it was a reflection on her - which it wasn't at all. I sometimes avoided receiving oral for "fear of failure" (ridiculous I know). Curiously penetrative sex was fine.

What I think resolved it was me deciding in the moments when I felt orgasm might be somewhere near consciously to bring to mind the sexiest things we'd ever done together - where, when, what - basically just immersing myself in highly erotic thoughts about the two of us. It worked and it hasn't been an issue since. Which was a reminder to me how much stress/distracting thoughts can play havoc with the delicate mechanics of arousal and orgasmic enjoyment.

So for me at least it's as much a mental as a physical thing.

Interesting thread! I gave (far too) many when I was younger and guys almost always came in my mouth then got a 2nd wind for sex x

Extra hand/finger stimulation may help get him over the finishing line. Try light stimulation on balls, rubbing perineum or if you're feeling adventurous some anal stimulation - speaking from personal experience that area can be super sensitive to the lightest touch so could help him reach that elusive climax you're both looking for.

Personaly ( from a male point of view ) , i can honesly say i could cum everythime the DW performs oral . For me its the intimicy of it all