Just don't feel like I'm being pleased enough...

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Don't get me wrong I know my DH works hard but I am always gagging for it & not getting it enough!
I'm unsure how to make things better & create the scene so to speak!
I enjoy all the whole fore play beforehand & all that jazz (which he does too) but he says that this can't be done on a 'school night' & has to only be at weekends.
He would prefer a quick 2 minute tumble during the week so he says but when it comes to it, he just states he has to be up early & promises the weekend..
Gone from 3ish times a week to once a week if I'm lucky!
Any ideas on what I can do to make things heat up in that department?!

You can only really talk to him about it and say what you need him to do to improve things for you. Ideally he would meet you halfway, but ultimately if he doesn't want sex at times you can't do anything about that. People get tired with kids and jobs, so it's understandable that hours of foreplay wouldn't occur every night and a quickie might be the better option. Buy a really good vibrator and have some me time.

Honestly, I don't think it's you that needs to do anything to spice things up. You're already handing it to him on a plate by being up for it whenever he wants it which is ALOT of men's dream wife..he's making the choice to not take you up on that so why should you feel the need to be extra spicy & basically do extra to pursuade him to want more sex? It's a hard one because if he doesn't want it...you can't force the man but my question would be...why in a healthy good relationship would he settle for once a week sex? Most young, healthy men would ejaculate more than that. Is he relieving himself during the week? Have you asked him and told him you need more intimacy? I'd be wanting some effort from him before I even thought about spicing things up my end X

Also...maybe communicate with him that there is a middle ground between loooads of foreplay, and a 2 minute tumble. You could have enjoyable sex for both parties in less than half an hour...then he can go to sleep and get up early ;)

His testosterone levels could be getting low 11pm at night.

Rather wake up 30 minutes earlier than normal and have sex when he T levels are higher.

Any ideas on what I can do to make things heat up in that department?!

Yep,
have children

for me personally work stress absolutely killed my libido stone dead to the point where mid week sex was totally off the table.

so as i once said to my wife, you can have the money or the sex.

This worked for us. On the lighter side,

I’m sure he could manage more than 2mins during the week if he’s up for sex. That’s just lazy imo. Most women don’t get much pleasure from a 2 min shag and I think men know that. I’d speak to him, why not go to bed half hour earlier and spend more time on foreplay? But at the end of the day if he’s not wanting it he’s not wanting it so maybe a good vibrator is the answer

I have always had a very high sex drive - oops!
Life does get in the way with working, having kids & housework.. Blah blah blah! But seriously!

I just feel like it's me.
Maybe he's not attracted to me anymore.

I find it hard cause he hints it & flashes me (when the kids aren't in the room) all the time which makes me think it'll happen but never does - so a bit of a tease really.

I just don't know anymore...
Maybe I should just sort myself out when I need it!!!!

To be honest, if he is not in the mood then he is probably not in the mood, 2 mins during week would suggest he is doing to placate you.

Maybe you need a discussion about expectations in the relationship, if you have quite different sex drives the danger is that you will become a sex pest and totally turn him off the idea