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Is it normal to film us having sex?

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Anna0000 · 30/05/2023 23:01

I have been seeing my guy on and off for about a year. We text almost daily and meet every couple of weeks. We’re not in an official relationship but I like him and really enjoy his company. We are both early 40s and are in no rush to make any formal commitments.

Our sex life is very passionate. The best I’ve ever had. We often sext and have phone sex too. He asked me how I would feel about him filming us in bed on his phone, for us to watch back and probably to delete afterwards.

The idea turns me on but I’m worried about looking fat on camera!

I’m also wondering how common this is? Is this a normal thing that happy, healthy couples do? Or is it an unusual suggestion from him? My friends are mostly married and we don’t talk about our sex lives so I have no idea of what’s common these days.

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Red0 · 30/05/2023 23:21

I couldn’t. I’d be too scared of the footage falling into the wrong hands at any point.

cheeseandketchupsandwich · 31/05/2023 02:19

Normal is different for everyone. Since you've said the idea turns you on, I say go for it.

HOWEVER I would be insisting the video is filmed on YOUR phone ONLY, for you to watch back first (because you're feeling self-conscious) and you will only allow him to view it (on your phone) IF you feel comfortable with it.

If he doesn't agree with the above I wouldn't do it.

Zanatdy · 31/05/2023 06:53

Recent ex suggested this, but more a comment that we should do it one day not asked me outright. Not sure I’d be wanting to agree as I’d hate to watch it back personally, but guess men are different. Is he a big porn viewer? This guy was, so guess he was wanting to watch it before himself rather than watching a random porno. But yeah glad I didnt. The sex with him was very passionate too and a lot of fun, but I guess I have a few boundaries and being filmed needs to be on there as you cannot trust that it’s going to get deleted.

SmirnoffIceIsNice · 31/05/2023 07:07

Like pp, I wouldn't do it because I'd be afraid he was sharing it without my knowledge, or what he'd do with it if we split up.

I wouldn't even record it on my own phone. Once it's on a device there's always a chance of it getting into the public domain if you're hacked or lose your phone. If you do record it on your own phone, keep it one of those apps like Photo Vault, that you need a password to access, so that no one sees it accidentally if they borrow your phone.

conversationsinthedark · 31/05/2023 08:52

I have only been filmed by my current long term partner...I think from behind only, or me giving oral is my boundary as I do NOT need to see my mum tum jiggling around on camera! I fully trust him though, and if we split and he shared them - you can't see much of my face (I wouldn't be identified)and hey I look good from behind 🤣. If you don't want to do it though, you absolutely shouldnt. If you do, maybe do it on your phone so that you can send it to him IF you decide you want to..and you can delete when you want to.

Blushingm · 31/05/2023 14:20

DP has filmed me giving him oral many times, it doesn't bother me. I know he enjoys watching me do it and it means he can watch it back which is a turn on for me.......

We've each filmed ourselves and sent it to each other.......he's seen me naked many times so him seeing me on camera doesn't bother me

I trust him implicitly though

Rieslinger · 31/05/2023 17:26

My BDW and I film relatively regularly.

I would say that @cheeseandketchupsandwich is bang on at least until you are in a commited relationship with DP then perhaps relax the shackles a little..

LovelyJublee · 31/05/2023 18:12

What does BDW mean? I've seen you use it before @Rieslinger and i wasn't sure if asking would be rude so I tried to Google to find out myself but I got "broke don't work" and i don't think it's that

I've spent an embarrassing amount of time trying to think up what it could be so figured I'd just ask.

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Anna0000 · 31/05/2023 21:34

Beautiful darling wife? :)

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Anna0000 · 31/05/2023 21:37

Thanks everyone for the thoughts. I think I will say to him that I really like the idea and it turns me on massively but that I would only feel comfortable doing it within the realms of a more committed relationship.

I actually want a more committed relationship with him!

Then if we get to that point, I would want it to be filmed on my phone.

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cheeseandketchupsandwich · 02/06/2023 01:43

I wouldn't say you want to film it on your phone just yet.

Broach the subject of a relationship first and see what response you get.

Baby steps ;)

acpk55 · 02/06/2023 07:13

cheeseandketchupsandwich · 31/05/2023 02:19

Normal is different for everyone. Since you've said the idea turns you on, I say go for it.

If he doesn't agree with the above I wouldn't do it.

Agree with this ^^ , my FWB wants to take a few pictures, but it will using her phone only and no faces visible

Rieslinger · 05/06/2023 10:13

@LovelyJublee @Anna0000 is spot on Beautiful Darling wife

wwyd83 · 05/06/2023 15:39

I have been filmed many years ago by an ex it was on an actual video camera so unless he still has a VHS recorder floating about, I'm not too worried, but I trust him and he's married now, so I really don't care.

My most recent ex wanted to film me but it was a hard no. Didn't feel comfortable with him at all.

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