Weird one

[SandyJane17]

Ok, so I have a weird “fetish” and I’ve googled extensively and I can’t work out if it’s normal.

I get turned on by imagining my husband with other women. We’ve been married a long time and I’ve spoken to him about this before. I don’t want him to cheat on me, but it turns me on if he tells me about what he’d do to someone else. Am I normal? Or am I weird? Google just tells me about how it’s normal to feel like that if he actually physically cheats. But I don’t want him to do that. Does anyone else feel like this?

In my experience it's more common the other way round (male likes to see/fantasize about his female partner with another man- cuckold) but "cuckquean" is a thing- maybe try researching that and see if it resonates?
Not abnormal, but tread carefully if you decide to take it further.

My partner says she would like to watch another woman sucking me. She too likes me saying what might happen if a third was there, what she would be doing. So no you aren’t unusual. We did talk about going to a club to try things.

Totally understand how you feel, I feel the same, my dh has fleshlight which he uses in front of me. I don't no if I could handle seeing him with someone else in real life but the toy works great for pretending

Hotwife = Hot Husband

I feel like this but it almost feels like a contradiction to me because I'm also quite a jealous person. Like I'd probably be mad at him for looking at another girl 🤣🤣 but then in my head I imagine him with other women and what he'd do to them. I've spoken with him about it before and said I'd like FFM threesomes at some point. I don't think I'd be okay with him doing anything alone though even he told me about it in advance. I think I'd feel better if I was there and a part of it, plus I'd get to enjoy it too 🤣

NC for this. From reading things on here, I don't think really anything is weird as you get an understanding of all the things people/couples keep secret. My DH let slip on holiday (after drinking so inhibitions relaxed) that his fantasy was to see me have another man. I have found more over the years he enjoys fantasy in the bedroom but this sort of floored me a bit.

I'm a little ashamed to say I let it happen once on the basis it was a one off to satisfy his fantasy. Yes he watched and did all he wanted to and yes, I did have all the nerves and doubts. He loved the experience and yes I enjoyed but afterwards, it didn't take away the fantasy, he just needed more and I am left with a bit of a hangup that despite me doing what he wanted, it was me that cheated and let another person into our sex life.
I have said I won't do it again, but I do participate sometimes recalling that night when in bed and I definitely am aware of how aroused it still makes him. He loves describing what he loved seeing and would like to see and do and he has extremely powerful orgasm doing that. Perhaps try and limit yourself to that?

I have been in a the other end (pun intended) of a similar situation.

I gave a good friend's husband a blowie for a big birthday. It was very much pre-planned (she asked me if I would do it) and came with definite rules. We decided a bed situation would be too intimate so we sat him on a chair and I knelt on a cushion; I like to be comfortable. She held his hand throughout and the rule was if at any time she let go of his hand, that indicated that she wanted to halt proceedings. Like many people she did no know how she would react when it came to it. We shared a bottle of wine afterwards and it never felt awkward.

We're still friends, it worked for us but everyone is different.

Gotta ask.
Which birthday?

Sorry starlight. Another question nags.
Did he come in your mouth and if so did you and your
Iiberal pal pre-research recommended wine pairings?

@pendleflyer - 😆🍾

I have this kink you're deff not alone.

We're ENM and swing so I get to live it out now and then. He has a friend he sometimes hooks up with then comes home and tells me about and when we swing I usually watch for a bit before joining in.

I would say though we have a very secure relationship and established dynamic and have had couples therapy and all sorts before we dived in (the therapy was for unrelated reasons but it's still helpful) if you want to try it communication is key

I certainly would nit be worrying about what is 'normal'. It's your normal so it's fine