Intimate hair removal ?!

[Springgrass]

Hey there
please forgive or direct me elsewhere or just tell it to me straight if I’ve got this wrong on here but just help !
I am 50 .. in a new relationship, early days, it’s been a while since I had a physical relationship with anyone but said new lover has commented more than once ( in a nice way) about my pubic hair And said more or less, that a shaved or bare vulva is the thing these days-?! Really ?! I am not a very hairy lady but I have a normal bush - having recently separated and w 3 kids and running around A Lot, beauty regime is really non existent and being a kinda older lady I am really confused and confidence knocked here.
is a bare bush (?!) a thing now, or heavily strimmed, I really like this man and enjoying the sex but I understandably feel a bit self conscious. I’ve told him so and he’s been very nice and apologetic but I want to look good ..!
Any thoughts or suggestions appreciated- I think additionally ( maybe no 1 reason!) I’m concerned about an uncomfortable Pubic area and high maintenance!!

Thank you 🙏

I think the most important thing is to do what makes you feel comfortable. I disliked my pubic hair so lasered it, prior to that I used to get it waxed. There is a general trend for less hair, but you don’t have to follow the trend if you don’t want to!

Several years ago, when I had my vasectomy, my wife discovered she really like my sack without hair. I've kept it that way ever since as a way of showing my devotion to her.

A lot of people do remove their hair these days. Don't remove it if you don't want to though, it's up to you. I shave mine off completely but sometimes I can't be bothered and it grows back a bit before I remove it again. My husband slightly prefers me smooth but doesn't really mind either way. I prefer men to keep their hair though, I really dislike when a man is completely smooth down there.

It is the trend now for less hair, but the big picture is you have to be comfortable with you.

I trim with the bikini shaver on a Gillette. So I'm still covered in hair, but I like it that way. I only did that after separating with XH... Realised I liked it more after doing it once, so have kept trimmed ever since.

DP mentioned a year ago he really likes a landing strip. I asked, so he told. Not pressured at all.

I'm going for my first ever hot wax Brazilian on Saturday as it's his birthday next week. Thought it would be a laugh to see his reaction.

If I end up preferring that, I'll keep it that way.

It's all about you @Springgrass

I am in my 50s I have only recently gone bare because it was suggested to me that I try it. I discovered I love it! I have gone from shaving to waxing and use Tend Shave and dry brushing to ease and prevent the ingrowing hairs. I don't think I could let it grow back now. Maintenance isn't a bother- I wax at home and shave the undercarriage because waxing that bit is quite frankly a pain in the arse (the front one)

It's certainly very popular!

I love being completely bare - been "all off" for years and wouldn't go back to having a bush of any sort.

But... what matters is what you're comfortable and happy with, no one else.

Totally understand given your re-entry to dating. Also nice you have met a man you like and want to please. Yes important you do what you want, but it is also a lovely thing to please your partner.

I have been similar years ago. I had my bikini line waxed very high for a holiday and trimmed the rest. OH when he found it let me know how nice he found it and said how nice he thought it would be me being bare. Didn't push it at all but during the holiday I decided to shave the rest totally and it was lovely him finding it when making love. Our sex life was good anyway but that night was extreme good and I thought if this is the reaction and also the admiration then I kept it up.

Now I usually have a full wax but of course it has to regrow a bit before each wax. He still compliments how I look in bed and elsewhere which I love and like he is so pleased how I look and feel.

I would maybe go for it. Shaving at first is fine but maintaining can be a pain but if you are only seeing him every so often, that might work. Waxing lasts weeks.

I have friends in their 50s that also fully wax...just part of their beauty regime

Yes it pretty much is. Though of course there’s still plenty of women (and men as this applies to
them too) who are happy with their bush, or trimmed bush. I looked into this when I started seeing someone last year after years of being single and prior being with my ex so I’ve only had sex with 2 men in over 20yrs (including the guy above). I researched old posts on here and googled and found many women shave it all off now. So prior to having sex with him for the first time I decided to shave it all off. I bought a pubic hair trimmer so first time it wasn’t full gone but almost, second time I used my normal razor and wet shaved. I remember a comment he made to me a few years ago (he’s an ex colleague) about his friend and a big bush, lol, so I decided to go with shaved. Glad I did as he had shaved all of his pubic hair off too. I much prefer to tbh, I felt a bit liberated! I don’t have periods but I’d imagine if you did it’s much cleaner too without hair.

Things like oral sex are obviously easier without getting a pube in your mouth and much to my delight he loved giving oral so I was glad I’d shaved it all off. It did feel a bit odd at first but then I liked it. Don’t feel pressured though, it’s your body and your decision but does appear to be the thing now to shave it off (and people will say it’s porn but the porn I’ve seen has a mix of people with pubes and without)

It's called Tend Skin, not Tend Shave btw

Female 40s here, I have been hair free since late teens, initial inspiration from elder sister. Over time I have gone for a quick whiz with a razor every morning with my shower (if you miss something one day you'll catch it the next and dead quick), Veet Sensitive (a tad messy) and having monthly Hollywood waxes (I get fed up with the regrowth period) and back round the circle again.

I certainly find it more comfy, especially in the hot weather, but each to their own, it is what you want to do. I don't do it for anyone else, in fact I've had the odd (some might say very odd) man along the way who has asked m to grow it Refused! My body, my rules!

I'm 50. Decided to shave around my labia because grey hairs were showing. I like a trimmed down landing strip on top.
You do whatever you're happy with.

Male here, mid 30's. I'm bare and so is my wife.

Yes I think the general trend is for less hair but for me its in no way a deal breaker. You go with whatever you are comfortable with.

And to be honest if you want to try being bare then do it..... worst case scenario is you hate it and it grows back in a few weeks

I've just had my first wax. Age mid 40s.

It. Fucking. Hurt.

I gave birth to 2 children without any pain relief. I have a high pain threshold.

The immediacy of this pain is off the scale.

I feel fine now it's stopped. No after effects. But I was crying out with pain during.

I had 2 ibuprofen and 2 g&t's before I went.

Apparently if I go back in 4 wks it won't hurt as much.

Be warned @Springgrass

I forgot that’s a big part of why I shaved, Grey pubes

That does seem very extreme level of pain. Yes when I first had done I took a solvable painkiller 30 mins before. After that was quickly easier. A fair few friends get waxed and I don't think their experience is any different to mine. I know some women are much more sensitive around their period, but I don't have periods any more due to contraception so don't know.

Maybe try and couple of times more and if no better then give up as definitely isn't worth that amount of pain

i found Lycon wax less painful

I just use lady sensitive razors and sensitive men's shaving foam. I find lady shavers ticklish and waxing excruciatingly painful.

I'd be inclined to say something along the lines of -

I will if you will.

Wax, that is.

Just to update, DP has now seen, and enjoyed, my wax. He really likes it, but mostly appreciates that I remembered what he said a while back and got it as a surprise for him.

What he enjoyed the most though was my story of actually getting the wax done. How many times I cried out in pain. How many times I kneed the poor waxer in the belly. How many times I got told off for straightening my legs. How I had to endure the indignity of parting my bum cheeks so she could get right in there.

I was laughing my head off as I was telling him, as I truly think it's hilarious what I went through. Still bloody painful, but it's a story to tell.

So he enjoyed the story of the pain, more than enjoying you and being bare below? I think based on your experience and his reaction, I’d stick to shaving it off the odd occasion you feel like it if it is t something you want to maintain

OP, as you or your body gets used to waxing, the pain is almost non-existent. I would describe it as slightly discomfort. I think the G&T is best saved until afterwards though.