What is wrong with me?

[kermitthefrogs]

I'm absolutely obsessed with sex, my DH works away Monday-Friday so limited to when we can have sex but as soon as I'm home alone im upstairs getting the toys out, as soon as he gets home on a Friday, if it is in school hours I need to have sex with him. As soon as the DC are in bed I'm wanting it again and to give him a BJ etc. obviously he doesn't complain but I don't just want it, I NEED it.

I'd never ever cheat on my DH, I utterly adore him but every man and some women I look at my first thought is "wonder what it'd be like to have sex with them" or how attractive I find them. It's like it's instant, I just can't help it.

I work part time and most of the men there I'm attracted to and if I was single I'd happily sleep with them.

No one would ever think this of me, I don't flirt with anyone or put myself out there but in my head I'm thinking of all the things I'd do to all of these different people.

It's exhausting, I have at least 2 separate plays a day, some times many more I'm just constantly horny. It's like a constant scratch that you can't itch. Some times I fantasise about meeting up with different men just for sex in the week and although I'd never actually do it, I think about it constantly when I'm home alone desperate for sex.

Is everyone like this or am I just not normal?

I am very similar. I've always had a very high sex drive. I masturbate a lot and need daily sex. I also think about it a lot. The slightest things set me off, watching a hot actor in a TV show or seeing a woman in tight gym leggings. I went through a time where I was sending pictures and sexting other men ( and women). He knows about this and we worked through it but I still struggle to control my sex drive. I don't think it's that you are not normal, it's probably just likely that you are like me and have a higher drive than most women. I'd advise keeping your desires to you and your husband if you want to keep the trust in your marriage because I feel awful that I fucked that up and though we've got past it, I can't undo it.

@Bexx87 thanks so much for your reply, I always look at other people and wonder if they think/act like I do. It's reassuring to know I'm not alone.

I'm always so tempted to have a fling or an online thing but I'd regret it so much

Try and have an open and genuine conversation with your husband, that's all anyone could do. Not abnormal, but incredibly tough to deal with practically.

How old are you, OP?

I'm 26

You've mentioned school hours so I assume you have kids. And you're tempted by a fling? Do you think that's fair on your husband and children?

@ThickSkinnedSoWhat have I had a fling? No

It's hormones. Estrogen and testosterone. In your 40s it gets crazier! I had to start doing lots of cardio and strength training and also limiting sugar spikes and it has balanced out.