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Is this type of behaviour normal?

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LolaMacbeth · 18/05/2023 23:12

This particular issue is with a relative of mine and I just wanted to know people's opinions on it.

My relative has known this woman for two months now, they been talking, going out, having sex, having fun all those things a dating couple would do. Expect they are not dating, which my relative keeps insisting on saying to this woman. They are friends with benefits.

He told me that she wants children but can't have them because she has PCOS. My relative doesn't want children and he is very serious about this decision in his life.

Now he confides in me about this relationship and asked me for my advice about this. The woman he is seeing just point blank told him he could cum inside her because she can't get pregnant and is apparently very insistent each time. She also came up with an excuse to not wear condoms too. Fair enough she has PCOS but my relative only has known her for a very short time.

He mentioned that she is very pushy for a relationship even tho he made clear they were not in, and keeps saying she wants to settle down and have kids via ivf knowing full well he doesn't want children. She knows he is very well financially as well as looking to buy a house and said if they lived together he wouldn't need to do anything at all in the house she would be the perfect housewife.

Now, I can only advice so much ultimately it's his decision but I said for him to be careful with the possibility of this woman getting him trapped. I just don't know what to think really. I didn't want to be rude but it sounded to me this woman is desperate... what do you think?

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Breaca · 18/05/2023 23:25

If he knows she wants a relationship and he absolutely does not, then he's being an asshole if he continues to sleep with her. That's just cruel.
If he doesn't want children, then he uses a condom. Every. Single. Time.

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LolaMacbeth · 18/05/2023 23:37

Breaca · 18/05/2023 23:25

If he knows she wants a relationship and he absolutely does not, then he's being an asshole if he continues to sleep with her. That's just cruel.
If he doesn't want children, then he uses a condom. Every. Single. Time.

I did say that to him, use protection all the time.

I feel like he does want a relationship but not this fast, I think he is also bit scared of commitment but maybe that's just me over analysing it. I agree that is cruel, and the fact that she knows his stance on this and still wants him and to be with him makes me think she is ultimately desperate and not thinking of herself and her dignity.

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phlaps · 19/05/2023 02:13

Tell him to run a mile before he starts fathering "miracle babies".

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LolaMacbeth · 19/05/2023 07:33

phlaps · 19/05/2023 02:13

Tell him to run a mile before he starts fathering "miracle babies".

Hoping it doesn't happen for his sake.
However I do think having a child would change his outlook of life, and overall his personality, like it does to most parents really. Just don't agree on this way of making it happen... if it's actually her intentions.

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Chellybelle · 19/05/2023 07:55

He's a grown man who can take charge of his contraception and decide whether he wants to be with her or not without getting his friends involved.

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LolaMacbeth · 19/05/2023 08:02

Chellybelle · 19/05/2023 07:55

He's a grown man who can take charge of his contraception and decide whether he wants to be with her or not without getting his friends involved.

He just asked for advice. He does what he wants, if it was a woman friend asking these things about a man that refuses to wear condoms and insists in cuming inside I would give my opinion too. Actually it sounds worse when reversed.
Ultimately like I mentioned, would be their decision on what to do.

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Zanatdy · 19/05/2023 08:15

He’s stupid if he takes it at face value. Unless he wants to be paying for a child for 18yrs he needs to wear a condom

MumMcphee · 19/05/2023 08:46

From the POV you’re explaining, it sounds like she wants to ‘accidentally’ get pregnant. This is the point he ends the relationship, it’s already built on mistrust. If he doesn’t want to father a baby, he uses condoms at all times, it’s that simple.

Chellybelle · 19/05/2023 09:40

He can ask for your advice, sure and you can give it, but when it comes down to it, you can't tell him if she's genuine or not. Surely he knows there's a risk of her getting pregnant if he goes ahead and sleeps with her unprotected. I'd tell him your thoughts on it but after that, it's all on him.

Bewilderedandhurt · 13/06/2023 18:09

If you sow the seeds be prepared to harvest. Only a fool doesn't use protection with a partner they barely know.
Maybe he could call be baby Jesus!

acpk55 · 13/06/2023 18:19

He 100% uses condoms all the time, and should probably give her the elbow if she is insistent that he should not

Opentooffers · 17/06/2023 12:55

I had PCOS, periods all over the place when younger. Then I came off the pill whe I hit 30 and biological clock started ticking. It took 18 months, so probably longer than most, and I didn't have any periods for the first 6 months off it. But then had my son. PCOS, does not prevent pregnancy, I have friends who have it and also have children. Actually, being pregnant seemed to help, went fairly tegular after.

Bacchus23 · 27/06/2023 22:21

I have PCOS and two children completely naturally.

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