Weight gain

[HealthConcerns]

I'm curious whether gaining weight has affected your sex life? I've gained weight and my sex life has declined, less often and less imaginative.

I can't help think it's because my husband doesn't fancy me as much now.

Has weight gain affected how you view your spouse and the frequency of your sex life?

Thankyou

You may be projecting that your husband doesn’t fancy you as much, but could you be feeling more self conscious and therefore less likely to try positions which would show off your body etc?

I weighed myself yesterday morning and told my DP that I had reached my heaviest ever, as I flung myself face first on the bed in despair. He didn’t give a damn and we were making out on his lunch break. Although my weight is higher now I am much more self confident than I was when I was slimmer, I think that has grown with age.

Try not to let your weight get you down, it can be tackled to help you feel your best!

My husband has put on about 4 stone since we first met and if anything I fancy him more now. He's quite muscular and tall so he carries it well. However I have been heavier( now lost most of it) and that affected my confidence a bit. It didn't really limit me in bed but I do feel happier now. He says he has always fancied me the same, slimmer or bigger and I've never had any reason to think otherwise.

I guess I'm just projecting my insecurities then. But we've probably only had sex 4 or 5 times in the last year. It's gone to happen a few times more but he's always came when going down on me so PIV is off the table then.

I miss sex. I miss the flirting in the day, the build up. The ripping clothes off and barely making it to the bed. I miss the being wanted and needed. I miss him

Ah, you sound so sad. It isn’t unusual in long term relationships for the passion to wane from time to time. Why don’t you initiate tomorrow, send a flirty text? See where that goes? Guys enjoy being made a fuss over too! Try to increase your non sexual contact too, things like hugs on the sofa , a pat on the ass while tidying the kitchen, giving/ receiving a foot rub.

The trouble is I'm the one that initiates all the time. Which is why I think he doesn't fancy me anymore as he never initiates. So I've stopped trying. Which leads to a cycle of feeling more rejected. It's just horrible really

If you're unhappy about your weight, might it be something you want to change? His lack of interest is probably nothing to do with you and you shouldn't lose weight for him, but for you, if it's going to make you feel better about yourself.

You need to sit him down and have a heart to heart. You’ve got all these secret insecurities running through your mind, something similar might be happening with him.

Is it feasible for you to overhaul your health/ fitness at the moment? That will help lift your mood so much, especially if you can get outside into the fresh air. I get where you’re coming from, believe me I really do! I’ve got some health issues that have made weight loss impossible, so I’m starting a program with a dietitian who is also a personal trainer.

I've been trying to lose weight but it's so difficult.

Now getting paranoid that if it's not my weight he's cheating.

Bloody sucks when your struggling with this kind of stuff

Have you spoken to him about the way you’re feeling? 💗 it totally sucks