Sex is boring

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So me and my partner have been together for nearly 2 months now. We dated a few years ago but other than a few dates it never went anywhere as we both had so much going on at the time. Anyway he got back in touch a few months ago and we started things up again but taking it slowly as we both have kids and i haven't been in a serious relationship in over 10 years so we didn't want to jump into a routine relationship too quickly. Last week we booked a hotel for our first night away (we both knew what it was booked for 😂) so we went out and had a meal and few drinks before going back to the hotel. When we had sex it was so boring that I almost fell asleep! I have quite a high sex drive and I am very adventurous. How do I tell him without sounding like I am putting him down? I know it sounds petty but this could be a make or break situation for our relationship.

Could you approach it from a getting to know you angle? So rather than saying, Sex was boring, try and find out what he likes. Maybe he was a bit worried about it being too full on for the first time.

My bf brought a pack of sex playing cards with him on our first hotel stay. It was a would you rather one, so it helped us both to talk about what we like (and don't like). It was fun and also led to a lot of mind blowingly good Sex 😉 turns out we are very compatible but it would have taken us a lot longer to find out if we hadn't spoken about our likes and dislikes.

Does it not take 2 people to have sex?! You were there. Could you not take the lead, direct things, make it less boring for you or is it just me who is bossy in bed? If you are adventurous, then be adventurous, I'm sure there would be an obvious sign if he wasn't enjoying himself!

What do you mean by boring?
Have you talked about what each wants and likes in bed?
If it's been a while for you both and you both likely had first time nerves. Second time, take charge and show him what you're into. Talk about a couple of things you're imagining happening and see where that leads.
But it's also entirely possible you do sex very differently.

I think first time can be a bit rubbish. The guy I was seeing recently I had a lot of good sex with, but the first time was definitely more vanilla. I think it took a few times to get to know each other’s likes and dislikes. He is quite open and asked me a lot of questions, and just naturally we found out what we like.