Threesome

[Milady44]

My husband wants to watch me give another man a BJ.
It makes me feel like he doesn’t really love me otherwise why would he want that? It also makes me think maybe he’s gay or bi? Thoughts please

If you don’t want to do it then you tell him you don’t want to do it. It doesn’t matter what anyone else’s thoughts or opinions are.

Plenty of people have threesomes and open relationships and it doesn’t mean they don’t love their partner, or that they are gay or bi because they find it a turn on to watch their partner with somebody else. But everybody involved has to find it a turn on and really want to be doing it, not just be doing it “for” anybody else.

Sounds like this is something you aren't interested in doing? Have you told him that? Some people have a fetish of watching their partners with other people, fine if all involved are that way inclined, but if someone is not, then it could leave you feeling horrible. I doubt he's gay or bi, but I'd be careful if you do it to keep him happy, then he might encourage you to do more in the future. If it's something you really don't want to do then I would advise him so, and stand your ground, don't let him talk you into it, or tell you about its benefits, no is no and needs no explanation!

You don't have to do anything that you don't want to...obviously. just refuse xx

OP, it is likely that my response would be different if you were the one who suggested this, but it seems as if you are being pushed into something that you do not want to do, so it ends there.

It sounds as if he is looking for a live porn show. As for his being gay or bi I think that is doubtful as he is talking about poorly heterosexual acts.

But you are more than a male entertainment centre!

Definitely agree if you aren't up for it or it's too far beyond your current level of comfort it's a no, but be honest depending on which it is, cos both my DW and I even two years ago said no to bum fun and it's now a regular part of our sex life... go figure!!

@Rieslinger agree, always good to be open minded to new and enjoyable things. Actual coercion though - a hard no.

Your husband probably has a cuckold fetish.

Gets off on the humiliation of watching his wife/partner have sexual relations with another man.

It sounds like he just wants to watch you giving head
If he was gay or bi I'm pretty sure he would want to be the one giving head
As others have said if you don't want to then don't do it

Agreed @Beneficialchampion2 husband probably has a cuckold fetish. @Milady44 doesn't have to participate though if that's not her thing - and it sounds like it definitely isn't.

I don’t think he’s gay or bi but I think it’s an absolutely terrible idea.

Some fantasies are better left as just that, fantasies.

OP, would you want to give another man a BJ?

The thing with having sex with others is that every one has to be fully on board with it. I love watching my wife give a BJ to other men but we had long conversations about it before it started and if you have misgivings then don't go there.

Im scared if I do it he’ll then want me to have sex with other men or involve another couple. For me the BJ would just be the start of something more.

So one way to deal with this might be to suggest you will only go along with it engage in one of your own personal sexual fantasies that you know your husband would find completely unpalatable.

Then he might understand your point of view better and will back off about this.

I have been in this situation with an ex. They was into cuckold porn and asked me to have sex with someone else while they watched. I also had to make lots of comments about his manhood, ability and things. I enjoyed the thrill the first time but then it felt really weird and we split up.