DP is 60 this year and I am 45. We are both after divorces. He has children, I don't. We have not had sex for 2+years. I feel very sad about it and low about everything, myself and life. I receive compliments from other men (my age), DP's friends always say how lucky he is to have such gorgeous looking girlfriend but I feel awful. I do look after myself and keep myself in good shape and look after myself but so what. He just is not interested sexually in me (or in any way other than what is for dinner). I feel I downgraded to a housekeeper and future free carer. I cry every day before bed wondering if this is it, will I never have sex again? I used to be sexually active, enjoyed it and have great memories of sensual nights and days. Holidays, all the dressing up, lingerie, being fun and playful. Now we sleep in separate bedrooms. He snores, doesn't want to do anything about it. Complains about literally everything and everyone and I as a receiver just wonder is that it?
I fantasies about meeting a new man, about love, about passion, about dates and looking forward to time together. I miss life. I spoke to him about the problem, he just finds excuses that it is work, I suggested therapy I am being ridiculous as he doesn't need therapy he just wants a bigger house. At 60?! What for? And who is going to clean this house? It seems to me he is controlling me by withdrawing sex. Perhaps I am wrong. I am so lost.
What would you ladies do?