Sex with ex

[TinyOctopus]

Has anyone got a fwb situation with an ex? I want to suggest to my ex we have a fwb situation but how? Please don’t say not to! I haven’t had sex in 6 years 🤣 and I cannot meet anyone as I’m a full time lone parent so it’s not possible, how can I bring this up with him? I can’t go another 6+ years without sex and I am getting to the point now where I’m starting to find men I wouldn’t have even given a second look to before attractive because it’s been so damn long! He’s single for reference (there are no feelings involved I just want casual) what’s the best way to go about it?

Why did you split up?

i mean you could and can

but you could also find someone new for FWB too
and have a new friend and new excitement …

how old are the kids ? When is your possible sex time ?

I can not find someone new This is not possible I am a lone parent and get no time off and I am not inviting strangers here to their home. Youngest is 5 so a long way to go.

I think in your situation I can understand why you would consider it. It would depend for me on the reasons you'd split, but I'm assuming it was amicable. Importantly I also assume you enjoyed sleeping with him and sex was good.

If so, then yes I would consider it, but be prepared for the feelings for you to. Over from FWB to more. Men find sex easy to separate from feelings. I had one previously and did find it difficult to stop the feelings

Honestly no feelings for me at all! We don’t work as a couple we just don’t and we want different things. I wouldn’t even consider a relationship with him again. We broke up due to his MH but this is no longer an issue and was 5 years ago.

Well I'd go for it then. Assume sex was good? I found taking the feelings out of it, we explored a lot more and I found a more adventurous side to me

Just message him and ask if he fancies a night in watching Netflix together with a bottle of wine.

Man here:
I'm not sure I'd recommend the Netflix & wine approach. For me, that would send mixed signals.

Probably just message and say it as it is. Assuming here you're in fairly regular contact, I'd say something like "can I be direct with you? We split, it's amicable, there's no going back into a BF/GF relationship. But hey, the sex was great, I miss it and wondered if you do to? Fancy starting a fwb?"

That's almost exactly how someone approached me a few years back; it worked.

Good luck.

My friend has this arrangement with the father of 2 of her children. They co parent well, and meet up for sex of either of them fancy it. Her youngest is 4.

They've both accepted the relationship didn't work, so sex only works for them. It started because she said something similar to @soloinaduo s suggestion.

Good luck!

If you are going to do it, be to the point.

the Netflix suggestion is too wishy washy.

Send him a text

Fancy a shag?

Or if you need to be more subtle.

I've an itch needing scratched. Fancy meeting up.

Neither suggests romance.

Are you sure he wouldn’t take it as a signal to get back in? As could turn awkward/ nasty if he thinks you may have somehow led him on in the future, not suggesting that’s what you’re doing but just be clear. Also think how it might impact on the children, will it give them a false impression of your relationship or confuse them if they see daddy in mummy’s bed again? Just something to think about but if you think it will all work then why not, sometimes better the devil you know.