Another orgasm question

[WithTheirDogAfterTheWar]

Coming at it from the opposite angle to the other thread i guess.

OK, so long marriage, years of no sex, plenty of wanking 😂I can come really easily from masturbation, used to come pretty easily from oral and could do some sort of combo and come through PIV. These orgasms would be one big peak, leave me feeling satisfied, and although I could/ would carry on having sex, I probably wouldn't come again.

Now, new bloke (not so new any more) - the sex is great, am loving it but the orgasms aren't the same. I thought it would naturally get back to 'normal' as we got used to each other more, but it's not. I find i don't usually hit those big peaks - I'll get closer and closer and then tip over an edge, and it's really bloody nice but it's not like falling all the way down the mountain, just to a ledge below 😂 So hard to describe! But I can carry on and on and on and have endless amounts of these types, in a variety of ways.

Sometimes when I'm with him or not with him but talking to or thinking about him, I find it harder to come by masturbation as well. it feels like I get too turned on almost! what a terrible problem 😂

Not sure whether I'm after advice or just reassurance that I'm not weird 😁 but any thoughts welcomed!

Three thoughts:

Make sure you breathe deeply as opposed to holding your breath. When you’re tensing everything as it approaches you can breathe more shallowly/breath hold. I find deep breaths make them stronger

Hold off on the first one as long as you can to see if that builds it, if they’re happening quite easily it might be the lack of build up.

Work on your pelvic floor muscles, as they weaken with age. I have lots of things for this 🙂

I expect it will just improve with time, it’s probably an excitement/tension thing. If you do end up having lots of strong ones that would be amazing.

will try the breathing thing and holding off! Pelvic floor is good 😁

Orgasms all have little personalities of their own, so I wouldn't worry if some are less overwhelming than others. Sime of mine have been less than generous in their effects but others have been like out of body experiences. I've also had the experience with a new partner of having orgasms that were less then generous, perhaps because that 'new relationship energy' (as our American cousins sometimes call it) was a bit too intense. After a few days of regular sex things settle down. I'm rather sceptical when people on here go on about 'death grip', but I think it's possible to become very accustomed to self pleasuring and it takes a little practice to get used to more sociable sexual activity. But it's great fun trying, especially if you enjoy the journey rather than aim solely for the destination.

@WithTheirDogAfterTheWar I wonder if there have been any hormonal changes for you or any new medications?
I don't know your age, but the menopause can change the type & intensity of the orgasm (not always a negative change, it can change for the better too).
Also, medication like antidepressants can have the effect you are describing.