Sorry this is long, but thank you if you read it.
Background is I have the higher libido. My DH knows this but has been trying to meet me halfway and his efforts haven’t felt forced. He’s on meds and has low T.
This morning he wasn’t up for it but suggested tonight. During the day he mentioned feeling tired so I knew it wasn’t on the cards. Usually I don’t initiate as then I don’t have to feel rejected. I didn’t get upset when he turned me down.
His jokes today have really been barbs.
He joked that if there was an upset with the sporting match he was watching I would be punished (I mentioned it wasn’t a close one so he decided to switch it off early). I then asked what my punishment would be and he said hiding a small amount of shit on my side of the bed. Anyway I blew up at him and now he has stopped talking to me.
I wanted to see if anyone had any ideas on how to roll with a joke when you feel degraded. I know he would never do anything like he suggested but I guess knowing that he had suggested sex in the evening but then went on to act in such a repulsive way was kind of twisting the knife.