How do we come together or at least get me there first?

[Meltinthemiddle]

So our dilemma is when I'm nearing orgasm, DH also gets harder and closer which then just takes me to the edge and I'm guessing tighter and then bam he explodes before I get there every time!
Now I'm not sure if I'm weird but the issue I am having is DH will now stop, slow down and change tactic but when I'm so close and near it's just an anti climax for me. It's a bit like when you are going to sneeze and you are so close and then someone stops you! And then the moment is gone and I struggle to get it back again, as normally feeling sensitive down there. So it's like a semi orgasm without the big finale. Am I weird is this normal? And how can I change this as it's leaving me frustrated now and thinking what's the point.

I feel lucky, this and multiple orgasms has happened to me many times. Sadly i can't identity what we do to make it happen or not

With XH, there was a certain position we found where he could stay still and I could make myself orgasm. My orgasm would then set him off and we'd regularly cum together.

Current partner has fantastic stamina and can resist cumming for ages...and cum on cue. I have several orgasms, and then he joins me for my 5th/6th. He's very good.

@Meltinthemiddle Have you tried being on top? That might help?

Take a drop of strong THC oil, the pair of you.Guaranteed orgasms and at some point you will cum together!

Yeah I’ve rarely come together
it’s logistically very tricky !

maybe it’s an unrealistic goal and that both having great orgasms separately is easier

I’m a bi M and in my experience it’s pretty common for guys to cum simultaneously, I think there are the visuals and feeling the pace of your partner is easier.