Crap sex and I'm sick of it.

[Felixss]

Sex life has gone down the toilet. I'm really not happy with DH he's so robotic and mechanical during sex. He can only cum if I'm on top and loud moaning which is undoable with a preteen. , He does his stupid edging over and over will last for for hours if he can get away with it. I've told him I just want to orgasm and finish non of this edging.

I think we might split over it as I'm avoiding sex with him.

Can u have a frank chat away from.the bedroom. Tell.him.what you would like, he tells you what he would like and hopefully there can be some sort of compromise.

Also maybe go away for a night or two somewhere private such as a hotel or air b&b, so you can actually experience sex without being tense in case the kids hear, that’s definitely not helping matters. Sounds like you both need time to relax to get back in touch with each other and what you both enjoy.

In a similar boat. See life has dwindled over the years. Partner hasn't a clue what I want these days and I'm not sure he's that bothered. Two teens in the house and he's got ED anyway, which he says he's trying to fix with medication.

All in all, very fed up!

I would suggest an open discussion to start with then try to kick start the sex life with some no pressure fun in a hotel etc without the children.

Would he be open to one of those couple questionnaires where you can enlighten your partner to your preferences if you both tick identical boxes?
Surely you need to have a good chat and explain what you both need from the intimate side of the relationship and what is lacking for you at the moment. Being with the same partner does become routine without trying to mix it up an being open.