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Should I say anything?

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TracxeyS1111 · 09/04/2023 01:34

Last night I went for a big night out with a group of friends. My relationship with OH has been very poor in the sex department for some time. Combination of night out, too much wine and some flirting my sex drive was very much awake.
I was sharing an hotel room with a one of the group. Same room separate beds. Mind wouldn't switch off thinking about sex, I was pretty drunk and body wouldn't switch off either, so ended up mastrubating. I was pretty discreet I think, but was pretty turned on.

My worry today is, did my friend know? feel really embarrassed about it, and of she knew. Don't know if I should apologise or say anything?
Or just ignore and hope it goes away.

OP posts:
DGConsultant · 09/04/2023 01:42

Ignore, can't be helped now. If a friend, she'd not mind and will likely understand.

JulieS1 · 09/04/2023 01:44

DGConsultant · 09/04/2023 01:42

Ignore, can't be helped now. If a friend, she'd not mind and will likely understand.

thank you for advice

changedname1979 · 09/04/2023 06:48

If your friend is unaware, why bring it to their attention now?
Maybe a general apology or admition of being really drunk “not remembering much” etc?

Wishona · 09/04/2023 09:50

I’d take an antihistamine or put some cream on my itchy legs. I wonder what detergent they wash the sheets in?!

😂

Runaround50 · 09/04/2023 10:03

@Wishona love those suggestions! 😉🤣

StormiDayz · 09/04/2023 10:06

DGConsultant · 09/04/2023 01:42

Ignore, can't be helped now. If a friend, she'd not mind and will likely understand.

I don't think so. I think it's disrespectful and a bit creepy to do that with another person in the room. Though I suppose it depends on if you have the type of friendship where you do this sort of thing. If not, you overstepped the mark. But there's no point in bringing it up, if as you say you were discreet and it's unlikely she knew.

Estherpologist · 09/04/2023 10:26

Agree with @changedname1979 Appologise for having drunk too much and say you hope you weren't out of order. If she mentions the masturbation, then you can be openly mortified. If not, just ignore it.

StarlightLady · 09/04/2023 10:35

OP, you are so overthinking this. I'm sure it's something a lot of us have done when sharing a room. You have said you were pretty discreet. Unless you were swinging from the lampshade, what happens in your bed in a shared room stays in your bed. It's your own private space. You don't owe anyone an explanation.

As an aside what is happening at home in the sex department is completely an aside. The needs are completely different.

Wishona · 09/04/2023 10:56

No honestly I wouldn’t worry. I wouldn’t care if any of my friends did that. I wouldn’t find it disrespectful! I’d just keep quiet though and forget it.

Senseofnopurpose · 09/04/2023 12:23

IMHO because you've written "an" before "hotel" you deserve to be forgiven for anything for the rest of the day.

MaryJean87 · 09/04/2023 12:39

Nope. People who can't contain their sexual urges around unwitting others are gross, sorry.

StarlightLady · 09/04/2023 12:41

To add to my earlier comments this must happen all the time, siblings sometimes share rooms, friends share rooms on holidays and possibly at uni, some friends co-sleep (non sexual) just because they are close friends.

Nothing disrespectful with any of this.

Disrespectful is not buying the drinks when it's your turn.

Tallguy101 · 09/04/2023 13:32

Nothing to worry about in my book. If it gets mentioned just go down the ‘mortified.._really drunk….can’t believe I did that…..’ and you will get away with it. I mean it’s not as if you did a line of Charlie and had a threesome in front of her is it?😀

StarlightLady · 09/04/2023 13:36

When we were teens on holiday, my elder sister used to occasionally bring a bloke back to a shared room. It didn't scar me for life. I used to pretend I was asleep.

Beachhutnut · 09/04/2023 22:02

In separate beds? I would be very surprised if she noticed unless you were vocal

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