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Sex when menstruating

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Iwannabeacrocodilehunter · 09/04/2023 00:20

I have always had the higher sex drive in my relationship. I can get very frustrated when I haven’t had sex in a while.

DH is a 1-2 times a week kinda man, which is fine, but he point blank will not have sex with me if I am menstruating.

I do understand this. But it’s what he says - he is so bloody childish, it makes me feel angry, which on top of sexual frustration, bodes for a really unpleasant week.

He won’t have sex when he knows I’m due on soon because “I don’t want to get a surprise of blood all over my dick - it might be like pulling out a plug”.

Then even when I’ve tried to explain that on day 5, it’s sooooo light, it’s practically over, we can’t because “It’s gross!!”.

So this can rule out a good 9 days of the month, even when my flow is only heavy for two days and light thereafter, which makes me feel crap. Especially when I know he’s going to go jerk off over some porn instead…which ironically I find much more ‘gross’ than natural female body function.

And I’m at my most ‘horny’ when I come on top, which makes it all the more shit.

I obviously don’t want to force my husband to come around to the idea of sex on my period. I respect that he does not want to do this, but any idea on how to at least make him ‘grow up’ about it. I’m sick of hearing how gross it is.

OP posts:
Mindovermatter247 · 09/04/2023 22:37

DP would quite happily do it when I’m on my period, it’s me that’s the problem, not that it’s gross, it’s just how I feel. I don’t want anyone near me whilst on. I’d rather people don’t even look at me.. so it’s a no from me… if I said to DP let’s do it whilst on my period he’d be on it like a dog on heat.

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Iwannabeacrocodilehunter · 09/04/2023 23:53

I wish I wasn’t that interested to be honest.

You know those cat videos…the ones where the cat is backing up into things and rolling around the floor calling… well that’s me 😂

I truly respect that he doesn’t want to have sex on my period and I would quite sincerely tell him the day I come on and quite honestly when it’s over, which would be around 4 days, and write off sex during that time, but he definitely drags it out.

If he just wasn’t horny I’d get it. But he turns to porn and that’s not fair 😭

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34and3 · 10/04/2023 07:13

@Iwannabeacrocodilehunter if he can't go four days without then I think that's more of an issue to honest

Kenny69 · 10/04/2023 08:16

Iwannabeacrocodilehunter · 09/04/2023 23:53

I wish I wasn’t that interested to be honest.

You know those cat videos…the ones where the cat is backing up into things and rolling around the floor calling… well that’s me 😂

I truly respect that he doesn’t want to have sex on my period and I would quite sincerely tell him the day I come on and quite honestly when it’s over, which would be around 4 days, and write off sex during that time, but he definitely drags it out.

If he just wasn’t horny I’d get it. But he turns to porn and that’s not fair 😭

Sounds there might be 3 things going on.

not having sex on your period is his choice, so you might have to accept that

Him referring to you period as “ gross” is just really pathetic

but porn thing might need some more attention, he might see masturbation as a private thing for him, rather than a shared sexual experience, whereas you are maybe seeing him avoiding having coupled sex ? ,

you admit that you have the higher sex drive, maybe it’s just that, he just doesn’t want sex as much as you.

rejection is hard not to take personally, in my marriage I was the one with the higher sex drive and was rejected a lot, it’s not a nice a place to be.

Wishona · 10/04/2023 11:08

Iwannabeacrocodilehunter · 09/04/2023 23:53

I wish I wasn’t that interested to be honest.

You know those cat videos…the ones where the cat is backing up into things and rolling around the floor calling… well that’s me 😂

I truly respect that he doesn’t want to have sex on my period and I would quite sincerely tell him the day I come on and quite honestly when it’s over, which would be around 4 days, and write off sex during that time, but he definitely drags it out.

If he just wasn’t horny I’d get it. But he turns to porn and that’s not fair 😭

Im like this too. I actually get kind of more energetic and a bit giddy.

I understand why some people don’t like it though. It’s very rare to find someone who does I think.

How does he know though? Does he track your cycle? Surely you can push a bit closer?

Emilypost · 11/04/2023 14:12

Be fair OP, it can get very messy, That's why some of us like it!

ATabulaRasa · 11/04/2023 17:52

I enjoy period sex (bloke here)… often find partners are more easily aroused and cum harder when on. Just put some towels down and get on. So, definitely not gross in anyway, and why he wouldn’t is a mystery to me

blubberball · 13/04/2023 05:12

The pill I'm on means that I don't have periods any more. But when I did, I've been lucky to have partners who enjoyed sex when on my period. Everything is wetter, and smells stronger. Some people like that

AbsolutePixels · 13/04/2023 12:56

Just dump him. He's a childish buffoon and a furtive porn-hound with a malfunctioning libido. Waste of space.

I couldn't do without period sex. Apart from when I'm ovulating, my time of the month is when I'm at my horniest. I've never had an issue with squeamish men, thankfully. Had a casual encounter once on day 1 with a heavy flow. He loved it.

Bexx87 · 13/04/2023 13:57

AbsolutePixels · 13/04/2023 12:56

Just dump him. He's a childish buffoon and a furtive porn-hound with a malfunctioning libido. Waste of space.

I couldn't do without period sex. Apart from when I'm ovulating, my time of the month is when I'm at my horniest. I've never had an issue with squeamish men, thankfully. Had a casual encounter once on day 1 with a heavy flow. He loved it.

Let's hope no one ever dumps you for your sexual dislikes or coerces you into something you don't want.

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