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Receiving oral for the first time in ten years

11 replies

justifynot · 05/04/2023 16:56

I'm excited but nervous.
I'm worried about everything from my body size to my wetness to taste.
I'm just nervous . I do t know about positions or duration.
I guess I'm afraid to let myself go .
We've discussed it and it's his absolute favourite thing to do sexually.
My last partner was repulsed by the idea of giving oral sex . Full stop .
Any tips please ?

OP posts:
Zanatdy · 05/04/2023 17:05

Just enjoy! Same happened to me when I started seeing someone new a few months ago who loves giving oral. He always starts off sex with oral and I love it!

Anotherlurkingmale · 05/04/2023 18:11

Firstly, congrats on finding a partner who gets off on your pleasure, hopefully he's a keeper. Take your time and build the anticipation, if it's his favourite thing then make him wait before diving in and just have the confidence to relax and enjoy it without worrying.

Tradeup · 06/04/2023 06:13

If you feel nervous have a few bevies first, congratulations on finding a man
that loves to focus on your pleasure.

Orgasmicreaction · 06/04/2023 09:31

I have also recently been on the receiving end of oral after a gap of many years. It turns out anyone else that had done it to me was totally crap at it. Having someone who loves doing it amazing. Do not let your former partner's ideas on the matter taint your enjoyment. Just lie back or stand there and maybe let your partner know how much you are enjoying it if you can. I tend to move around a little and can't help a bit of thrusting every now and again. I'm sure if they love doing it so much they will ask you to change positions if they want you to and if the duration isn't right for you then say so. I've never said 'please don't stop' to a man doing oral before either. I have now!

Estherpologist · 06/04/2023 12:29

Lie back and, whatever you do DO NOT think of England. (That's just a complete mess at the moment and thinking about it won't help! 😉)
In my experience, if someone enjoys giving oral, as long as they can take direction, they're usually better at it.
If you've not had it in 10 yrs, you may not remember what you like, so just focus on you and let him know when its good. If it's not good and he is, he'll want to do better next time. And that's OK too.
Remember "yes ... more ... left a bit ..." is way better to hear than "not there ... not like that ..."

StarlightLady · 06/04/2023 12:35

OP, 40 something woman here and for me it's the Crème de la crème. Congratulations on finding someone who will do their job properly. I was once called "shitty" on MN because I said I would not have sex with someone who would not go down on me. But my body, my rules!

Body size is not relevant, if someone is into you they are in to you. Oral or no oral, you don't change size.

Positions: Go for what feels comfortable for you. For most of us, comfort and sex go hand in hand. You might find putting a pillow under your bum helps when laying on your back. If you are comfortable with him you should be able to gently position his head gently for your ultimate pleasure. It sounds as if he would be happy with this and only you know what sensations you are getting.

As for duration, it is down to you and your needs. It's possible that after climaxing from oral you find yourself ultra sensitive, almost to the point that you cannot be touched. If you prefer to stop at this point, then do so, but if you can ride this, the yellow brick road is just around the corner.

Wetness is healthy. As for taste, I would describe myself as past the curious stage and I assure you that there is nothing remotely unpleasant.

Enjoy yourself. x

Inthebathagain · 06/04/2023 16:03

When you're kissing before, stroke his face and chin. If there's a little 5 o clock stubble there, then him giving you oral will be a little scratchy. The labia is sensitive and you'll feel it. Best bet is to tell him if you're finding the stubble uncomfortable.

My experience is that men love it if you occasionally play with their hair while their down there. I love playing with their hair too, as it reminds me his head is buried between my legs.

I like long licks up and gentle sucking on my clit. I also love him gently pulling my lips apart and flicking his tongue in and out of my vagina.

I really love oral but it takes a very talented tongue to make me come that way. PiV for me works every time!

CallieQ · 07/04/2023 01:32

justifynot · 05/04/2023 16:56

I'm excited but nervous.
I'm worried about everything from my body size to my wetness to taste.
I'm just nervous . I do t know about positions or duration.
I guess I'm afraid to let myself go .
We've discussed it and it's his absolute favourite thing to do sexually.
My last partner was repulsed by the idea of giving oral sex . Full stop .
Any tips please ?

Enjoy it

Namechangednorth · 07/04/2023 07:07

You are nervous due to previous experience. Difficult not to, but try and relax and not over think it. If he loves it, then let him lead and I am sure you will get aroused extremely quickly...especially if he is as good with his tongue as my DH. Just encourage him and let him know how much you are enjoying it and how it is turning you on.

AlexaAdventuress · 07/04/2023 11:41

That's fantastic news. Hope it's all going enjoyably. We're all different and enjoy different kinds of movements, so I hope you can find something that works for both of you. It'll be great fun trying.

IamShirley · 08/04/2023 11:14

Like others here, hope it is going well for you.
Will you be happy to return the compliment?

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