How to make him interested again?

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I was that thin blonde big boobed girl, lots of attention from men. Then turned 40. I'm trying to lose the covid weight and not be that cliche, but Im 20 kilos overweight at present. My dh seems to have lost interest in the meantime. Is there anything I can do... I feel so rejected.

@Tex81 it's this woman's real life, not your version of some 70s porno

That would get me interested in less than 3 seconds! Add in stockings and you have an instant winner!

I am about 50lb heavier than when I first met DH and I still have to beat him off with a stick. We have sex most days.

Sexting throughout the day can get both people in the mood and add anticipation. A nice lingerie set, maybe in heels, open the door wearing this, if you have kids and it’s not possible, put on some nice lingerie or go naked in bed, light some candles and message him to come up or go downstairs wearing very little, he should get the idea.
These have been tried and tested.

Talk to him.

It might be hard, but open up that discussion with him.

Tell him how you feel, and listen to him.

He might be going through all sorts of things, but you won't know until you can discuss your feelings openly.

Talk fist, perhaps over a special dinner. Reassure him that you still fancy him and can you put Covid and everything aside and start living and enjoying your lives together again. A kind of fresh start. IMO the key is together.
Make it a Spring/Summer Resolution.
The gimmicks like stockings and forgetting your knix only work if he is interested. (the simple things can be effective)

What is the emotional intimacy like in the rest of your relationship? Do you hold hands or cuddle up in front of the TV? Do you spend time with each other or is it just work and kids?
When you both feel relaxed and comfortable with each other, that's when the magic happens. And that's when no one cares about a few extra lbs.
In contrast to what some have said, lingerie on the sofa may be a step too far too quickly. Put the ground work in and the rest will be better when it (or you) comes.
Good luck. ❤️

100% this, forgot about the stockings nonsense, and go back to relationship basics, do you still want to be together and go from there

For the record, I didn't say forget about the stocking nonsense. If you feel sexy in stockings and he thinks you look sexy, go for it. 😉 Just maybe not this week. 🤣

Well, contrary to popular belief, stockings don't appeal to everyone! But maybe that's a starting point for conversations - what sorts of things do we find attractive? What makes you sit up and take notice? Sometimes treating matters as 'a problem' to be solved medically or therapeutically makes them seem more intimidating. Perhaps it would be beneficial to talk about daydreams, things you see on the TV that you think are interesting, scenes that you like in films and so on that pique the imagination.

Make It obvious, guys aren't always quick on the uptake, be raunchy and smoldering, ware some fuck me boots, put his hand on your leg, make him feel wanted.

make him feel wanted.

This is it really, men want to feel just as wanted as women do.