I’m married to an amazing man, he is literally everything I’ve ever wanted. We have been married 15 years. Both just turned 40.
We aren’t, and never have been the most sexual of couples, even in the early days. He’s asexual, I have a very low sex drive. We haven’t had sex for about 5 years now, since our little one was born. It’s not really been an issue, but for some reason these past few months I’ve been feeling horny, like very horny and that’s unusual, I have no idea why or what’s changed for me to feel this way.
This has obviously caught us both off guard, but sex wise, it’s not looking likely for us as a couple, we have mentioned possibly of opening up our relationship as an “itch scratching thing” and see how that goes. DH is fine with this if it’s what I want. The option is definitely mine.
Anyone else been in this situation and what came of it? How does it actually work. Do you just arrange it somehow with someone, meet up, so what’s needed and return home? Do you discuss it with DP afterwards? In what depth? What boundaries, and how do you set them?
We signed up to a website a while back, I went to meet a man in a hotel, but got very nervous, and sort of bottled it, so didn’t do a lot. I think that was just initially shock factor, now I feel sort of ready if it arises again.