Liking porn

[Estherpologist]

First, I'm gonna get all the caveats out of the way.
This is NOT a vicarious post and I'm not interested in what sort of porn anyone likes or what they do when they watch it. And this is not really a question for the boys (sorry, its widely accepted that most boys like porn and that's ok, but its not my question). And I know there's a lot of bad porn. And on the MN sex board it's a fairly self selecting audience.
Right ... I think that's everything's out if the way ...

So ... do you actively like porn, actively dislike it, watch it because your DP likes it, watch it even though your DP doesn't?

Full disclosure - yes, I watch it. Sometimes I like it, sometimes I hate it, sometimes I hate that I like it. And I probably wouldn't feel comfortable watching it if I had someone to watch it with.

I have tried watching porn but didn’t like the stuff I found online, I then tried ethical porn which was a little better. I realised that I’m not a visual person at all, I love audio porn, I love listening to erotica. My DP does not watch porn at all. I have never watched it with him.

Similar to you, complicated mixed feelings. Goes in phases. I tend to watch mostly homemade stuff now because it seems less tricky in terms of exploitation and consent. Mostly bits on Reddit rather than anything longer. I’ll look at it if I just want to get off and not put much effort in! I like stories more really.

I don't watch it. I'm not against it or anyone who watches it and I think it has its place, but personally it does nothing for me. My husband and I occasionally make our own and enjoy watching that back. I like listening and reading erotic things but I don't like the visuals of porn. I'm no prude and I have a high sex drive and like male and female bodies, but I find most porn out there to be gross. I enjoy watching sexy scenes from TV shows or nude scenes with an actor I fancy and then leaving my mind to imagine up a story in my head when I masturbate.

It doesn’t really bother me, DP used to watch it all the time when we fi4st got together, he doesn’t do it so much now. He’s knows I’m not bothered. It stops him pestering me 24/7 😂

If I allowed myself to do so, I could easily spend all day everyday watching porn: I have an obsessive personality, am pretty low in conscientiousness and can get quite fixated on sex, especially when life is tough and I need a distraction.

However, I don't ever watch, haven't done so for many years. Porn is horrifying to me. It's so degrading, both to the people who appear in it and those who watch it. I hate how it's taking over the culture, and messing with our relationships and sexuality. I want a sexuality that's authentically mine: I don't want the most intimate, private part of me commercialised and made into product.

I can't see myself having a relationship a porn-user now. Apart from the bad sex, I just can't imagine being attracted to someone who was into porn. A lot of men are cucks now, and yet hardly seem to care. They've lost all self-respect, lost all compassion, and fatherly concern too (those poor teens in the videos). Coomers make me sick.

I have watched m/f porn in the past with male partners and while I liked the taboo and seeing them excited I rarely found the types of porn they liked was appealing to me. That in the pre-internet days when mainstream porn was fairly tame!

I still like erotic films, and images and occasionally watch porn solo but always f/f and mostly homemade these days. I have no interest in seeing close ups of genitals or watching sexual acts that I wouldn't want to do. I'm far more likely to read or listen to free self-published porn on literotica these days than buy commercial porn to watch.

My feelings similar to others here, I recently discovered F/F on bellesa.com that is free from violence.
Can anyone can give me links to the amateur or nicer ones on Reddit or anywhere else. On thread or PM me please.

Thank you for the links, I have been surprised by a few things to do with female anatomy and ability.
But the most ridiculous has to be that some men are still keeping only their socks on but the girl is totally stripped.
Still open to suggestions. Hoping to find examples of a kink of mine. Won't post it here in case we get closed by the censor.

I can only watch f/f. M/f seems to have no pleasure for women, like no clitoris action just pumping away.
I wondered if I might be bi, perhaps but could just be that I find m/f quite aggressive and as I say, no pleasure for the woman

I watch it with my bf, and do like it. But rarely watch it off my own back as I prefer the real thing whereas my bf I think he’s perfectly happy for either!

I don't think we get censored as long as you don't breach mumsnet guidelines, just talking about sex shouldn't. I generally just search on reddit for whatever I'm thinking about.

Hate porn with a passion.
Much prefer reading erotic stories.

I am against porn in principle but sometimes I do watch it when I am very horny and DH isn’t around. Unfortunately most of it is absolute crap and not a turn on for women. I definitely cannot stand it when the guy is unattractive bleeh! And most of it is just not erotic or sexy. It’s easier to resist it for that reason.

I have also discovered I am much better off reading or listening to erotica as my imagination makes it way more erotic, and of course it’s not unethical and I am not contributing to an industry that exploits and traffic’s women and girls.

I find during sex my mind starts drifting into the most amazing fantasies and they are nothing like boring “wham bam thank you ma’am” porn. Virtually all porn seems to be for men and is purely objectifying and just leaves me cold. My own scenarios are way sexier.

We watch it occasionally as a spice up in the bedroom...on an iPad cuddled up and then some touching as we watch. I prefer prefer something with a "story" or some talking in it...not just straight down to it. I think it can bring out more of things you may like or interested in trying as DH chose something to watch and I then knew he might be interested in that ( nothing hugely weird)