Is this it for me.

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I keep trying and trying to suggest spicing up our sex life but it's just reciprocal, I really don't want be with anyone else but the thought of having occasional boring sex for the rest of my life is driving me mad :-(((

Don't tell me to leave as I don't want that

Have I understood this correctly?

1. You are dissatisfied with important aspects of your man.
2. He does not change.
3. You insist that you remain with him.

You have closed it down.

What does your partner say when you tell him you're unhappy with your sex life? How have you discussed it?

Is there still intimacy in your relationship? Holding hands, kissing, cuddling...?

I guess it depends what you’ve discussed, what you’ve tried etc. Mediocre sex is dull, let’s face it. Some people are content with it, I didn’t know much else for years with my ex. Current bf, wow couldn’t be more different. It’s made me want sex all the time, and I thought my sex days were over. If it’s no longer working for you, walk away.

What kinda things have you suggested ?
maybe his is not comfortable with what you are wanting to do ?

Is "this" it for you?
That depends what you mean by "this".
There are several variables:
You're unhappy.
You're not having the sex as you want.
Your DP is having as much sex as they want.
You're with your current DP.

Counselling for you might help you be happier about your current situation.

Counselling for your DP might help them have more of the sex you want, but that's contentious as no one should have to want more sex. (That's more or less socially accepted on the genders involved.)
You could have sex with someone else, but you then have to decide whether that's with the knowledge and consent of your current DP, whether it is purely a sexual relationship, or financial, or romantic.

If you don't want to leave your partner, something has to change, even if it's only your acceptance.

I've been in a similar position and it nearly destroyed me. I know what worked for me, but you are your own person and you have to decide on your own compromises.
Good luck. ❤️