Dating a triathlete/ fitness nut and I'm nervous

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Because he is slim and toned and all of that whereas I'm two stone overweight... untoned, not slim and only moderately fit and we're about to have an overnight together for the first time!
My self esteem is not wrapped around my body and I'm actually quite body confident in that I am well groomed and dress fro my body shape . I make the best of myself basically.
I am wobbly with a seriously wobbly belly and I'm worried he'll be turned off me.

Can I have some opinions on this .. men especially welcome ! And some tips to decrease my anxiety surrounding this .
I'm so excited and so is he but this is definitely at the forefront of my mind this morning.
Thanks

He's going to love your wobbly squishy bits. Have fun and enjoy his stamina.

Unless you have been wearing a marquee everytime you have been with him so far he will have an idea of your shape and size.

Don't worry, chill and enjoy.

Give the boy some credit. He might not be so shallow.

Ah I don't think he's shallow. I suppose I'm nervous as I am quite squishy and self conscious.
Plus, my previous partner never once complimented my body apart from my boobs .Not even once . Whereas I walked around completely naked in front of my exh and had absolutely no hang ups.
Perhaps that man has done quite a number on me.

A new romance is so exciting!! I’m so sorry you have body hang ups, I used to so can relate! He is with you already, your mind, humour and face are obviously beautiful to him so your tummy won’t be a dealbreaker.

How about changing into something like this until you’re feeling more relaxed:
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I chose the ‘fake it til you make it’ attitude to body confidence 😁 and it’s made a world of difference!

Thank you!
He has said kind things .. like he has said that I'm very attractive to him and that talking to me is addictive .. whatever that means.
I can't tell you how alien this is to me. I was with a man who spoke solely about himself and his needs trumped all.. sexual and otherwise.
I've worked very hard on my boundaries and am straight up now about what I accept and don't and my expectations, which has been hugely empowering but I still wonder in the back of my mind what is it about my body that attracts him
When we are polar opposite .

I suppose I've never been with a man who is so into fitness etc and he is modest and low key about it, not a show off or up himself .

He sounds like a great, well rounded guy, doesn’t he?? I hope you have an amazing time 😘 it sounds like you really deserve it after your past experiences. Keep the relationship based on mutual respect, good communication and honesty and the rest will fall into place.

Also…a really fit guy is going to have the strength to do all the contortionist sexual positions…lucky you!! Xx

He obviously has an idea of what your figure is like even through your clothes. Just because he is slim and toned, doesn't mean thats what he likes in a woman. The sexiest attribute a woman can have, in my eyes at least, is confidence.

If I have got to the stage of having sex with a woman, I would have a reasonable idea of her figure shape/size and I assume that she would of me.

I have never had a type, and have been with women of varying shapes and sizes. For the record I have pretty much always been at least a couple of stone overweight, and would have been in your position with slimmer, more well toned women, but when it gets to the point of clothes off, then it hasn't mattered to me, and I have not had anyone say or act, so far as if it has been an issue for them. Maybe I have been lucky.

The point I am trying to get to, is that he will just be pleased to be naked and getting down to stuff with you, and likely to have his own insecurities. If you are confident in your own skin, then let that come across and have a great time!

He sounds great 😍
I can only offer that I’m sure as soon as things get going, you’ll forget all about worrying about your wobbly tummy!
How many times have you met already?

Bloke here. Don't worry. Believe it or not he'll have insecurities too! He won't care once the hands start wandering.. enjoy!

Only three times.

Well you’ve clearly got some chemistry! I’m sure it will be great, you’ll need to let us know!

I will thank you!

Guys with hard bodies often love the contrast with a softer feminine body, what we find sexy is the whole package so believe him when he says he finds you very attractive and your personality addictive. Self confidence and enthusiasm in bed is usually what most men want, so don’t apologize, just enjoy yourself with gusto.

Have fun, be bold you'll be fine!!

I think I saw some survey years ago asking men and then women what their ideal shapes were. The majority of men preferred ladies with a bit more weight and curves in comparison to the women. Don’t worry.

He will know exactly what to expect and I’m pretty sure he will be looking forward to it

Own it. He will definitely already have a good idea about your body is like and therefore is into it

I hope you had a wonderful time!! ✨