Podcast about improving sex life?

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Does anyone have any suggestions?

I'm working on our sex life. I thought it was amazing and it was but I've been so insecure.

I just turned thirty and I am working on my confidence and example having the lights on, which is so nice but also vulnerable
I've been with my husband since I was 20 and I am 30 now and he is almost 37

I am very comfortable and safe in my relationship but I am also wanting to elevate our sex life

So yes any podcasts or books

I am not interested in anything rough sore or violent
Nothing to do with anal sex or dressing up
Not interested in toys

I just want to learn about a deep connection more like Kama sutra

Hey there! I’m a little way ahead of you on the journey!
The Beducate app has some interesting modules on Tantra which we have really enjoyed working through.
Shameless Sex is my favourite podcast, lots of advertising tho!
Sex with Emily is also good and there is a Come As You Re podcast which is amazing.

Enjoy 💗

Oooh actually pick and choose the Shameless Sex episodes, I lean towards kink and they may not be of interest to you!!

Thanks so much I'm going to listen to those now

Is it worth the effort? I feel like I've missed out my whole twenties with my husband!

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Did you always KNOW you liked kink or did you ever feel like it was not for you? I wonder if I should look into it? I don't like suffering and have chronic pain so maybe that's why

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I can relate, my 30s were the problem! Just one drama after another led to me basically becoming a shell of a person, desperately trying to not fall apart. But….I worked on myself and I’m back with a bang 💖

Personally it has totally been worth it. We are so in tune, so devoted to giving each other maximum pleasure and more in love than ever. As a result, my body is relaxing into sex so much easier and orgasms have changed from wonderful clitoral ones to full on body waves. It’s epic!

Re: kink…yes, I had a fair idea but I didn’t act on it until quite recently. I was scared I would shock my partner and scare him off! But I was brave and shocked him anyway 🤣 we talked through his boundaries and feelings as well as mine and it’s all going swimmingly. We have kink night once a week and that satisfies my needs.

I don’t enjoy suffering as such but I adore the chemical release from spanking, flogging etc. Although I’m not sure how those nerve pathways would react since you already experience chronic pain. Look into it, you might find something new to add to your repertoire! Wrist restraints and and an eye mask are not going to cause any pain at all, but if they’re new to you they may add a frisson to the encounter xx

Go tantric

I think if you've only just got the confidence to have the lights on then you should be taking things extremely slow.

That isn't really a kink, it's just kind of normal.

I suppose the term kink is subjective really isn't it? Lovely to be on a voyage of discovery.

Definitely take a look at Pleasure Mechanics (just google or as dot com at the end). The Speaking of Sex podcast covers everything, but the theme in all their material is intimacy, connection and not being judgemental.

Like you I'm in a very LTR and building something with just one other person is what it's all about.

@stopbeeping "Is it worth the effort? I feel like I've missed out my whole twenties with my husband!"
Yes, absolutely worth it. You've still got your thirties, forties, fifties........

You could try this one - www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b09bxkhp

• it's a Womans Hour episode from a couple of years ago. Jenni Murray talking to a psychotherapist about the expectations and the emotions/connections behind the desire. This really helped me to see things in a different light a couple of years ago, i think i was trying too hard to make things always spontaneous and exciting and passionalte. Sometimes it is, but also sometimes subtle and sensual, sometimes playful.

And if you aren't completely comfortable yet with lights on, try some very low level lighting, a low wattage lightbulb or maybe fairy lights, gives you a "moonlight shining through the window" feel which i find very sensual.

@Catullus5 Pleasure Mechanics looks interesting, I’ve just signed up!! Thank you for sharing xx

This sounds amazing and right up my street thank you

When I went looking for sex podcasts a while ago, almost all those I found concentrated on connection and communication, and I'm not sure they were particularly revelatory. So I gave up.

As for toys, dressing up, they work for a lot of people, so don't rule them out. And "kink" isnt just about BDSM - the terms seem synonimous these days, but if your curious, you'll find there are a gazillion kinks that dont involve pain or power.

Good luck. ❤️