Porn chat - don't judge

[CreatedUserName]

Since my divorce I have started watching porn. I have never watched porn before. I was up my own arse about it actually and did judge people for it!

Now I've started watching pegging videos and men being dominated. It isn't the pegging that's getting me off. It's the fuck you men you are nothing vibe. I don't know if it's related to my bitterness about the male race in general, I have no wish to dominate or peg anyone, actually that's not true, I would love too, not because I find it sexy but because I hate men so much!

I now wonder whether men who watch porn hurting women feel the same.

I probably should stop but it makes me feel better in a weird way (and not just my multiple orgasms!)

P.S I don't hate all men, I'm just still putting my broken heart back together.

I just don’t think it belongs in a sex topic which is off course entirely my own opinion. Discussing abuse, paedophillia and degradation needs a trigger warning though.

This thread doesn't feel genuine to me.

I get off to this because I hate men therefore if you get off to that you must hate women.

That's not my real life experience of partners that enjoyed bdsm at all, not on any level, either in practice or fantasy.

Of course there must be some that get off from a place of hate just as the OP says they do.

If the OP is genuine I'd suggest therapy to help heal from your experience because hate is a very damaging emotion and when mixed with something as powerful as sex, dangerous.

That advice would stand whether male or female

I've reported this post and I hope others have as well. Advocating violence and what is essentially rape is not ok. This isn't about concensual BDSM role play, but fantasizing about actual violence. Also for people that have compared this to things that are on PornHub etc, that network of websites is appalling as well, and I would urge people to support traffickinghub.com

You can be sex-positive and recognise that certain fantasies come from a bad place. I don't think that's hard to understand at all.

Society has never said that all sex instincts are good.

Having watch this thread develop I am pleased you reported it and hope it is checked out and probably removed

@CreatedUserName Perhaps finding someone to metabolise some of your feelings is a good idea?

Sorry for my earlier post, I'm all for some good old grrry sex but I do wonder that perhaps some of your emotional wires are crossed and if you can get a decent bout of reflection in it might help??

That said it may not and if you find someone who is healthy and whole who goes for the receiving then....I don't know...bit worried for you tbh x

I don't think it's surprising that you'd feel "powerful" watching scenes of men being dominated. A huge part of BDSM is power dynamics. Imagining yourself in a Domme role probably does make you feel better, if you're recovering from damage caused by a man. You're flipping the tables.

There's undoubtedly men out there who watch porn who feel the same hatred towards women. And men who act upon that in real life. I recently dated a sadist who admitted he liked hurting me as a means of enacting revenge on past women who'd hurt him. (HUGE red flag!)

It's good that you've no intention of acting this out... fantasies can be a way of processing our feelings about sex and relationships. And you clearly have some self-awareness of your motivations.

However, you need to be cautious that exposure to violent porn doesn't normalise this behaviour for you. That you become dependent upon it to get off. Perhaps take a step back. You can be angry at men and build yourself back up without fantasising about hurting them.

It’s good your honest
no judgement
and …
you raise a very uncomfortable point 😱