Erectical disfunction, I'm wondering

[Bigned3986]

Bit of a sensitive one here... DW. and I had a real heart to heart about relationship issues yesterday and she admitted she hadn't felt happily married in the past few months. There have been alcohol issues with her, which is related to her low self esteem... not helped in any shape or form by her mum. Think 'Stately Homes' for those who know.

Back to topic and I've struggled to maintain an erection with her - especially at the penetration stage, and she has wondered if I no longer find her attractive. Admittedly, we did try last night after making things up after our deep chat, but again, I struggled with obtaining and maintaining - which I know made her feel unwanted, despite me truly wanting that intimate bond.

I wonder which way to go with this, whether it is something I should go to the
GP about. Is it just me, or recent stresses. Just want to make DW feel good about herself. Thank you.

No harm in getting a check up in case there is any issue..high blood pressure, diabetes etc..viagra is available over the counter now and will have the desired effect if its just a confidence issue though. 😉

Definitely a visit to you GP, your need to rule out any physical issues then you can address psychological issues.

It can easily become a self feeding cycle of anxiety. You both want the intimacy, you fear letting her down and making her feel undesirable, it's already happened and will be worse if it happens again let alone the impact on your own sense of masculinity.

That's a hell of a lot stress to keep an election through without even addressing what else is going on in your life.

I went through a similar patch years ago and viagra turned it right around, I could be confident without worry and soon found I mostly didn't need to take it at all.

I hope all goes well.

@Bigned3986 do you really need strangers on the internet to validate the obvious for you? Yes go to the gp FFS 😳

You’ve got such a lot going on at the moment. Please get checked out by the GP as the guys have already suggested. And let your wife know that you need her patience and empathy right now, this isn’t about you not fancying her!! Honestly, I’d take penetrative sex off the menu until you’ve been checked out, that way the pressure is off you and you need to get creative about ways to be intimate.

Many thanks everyone. Definitely need to get myself checked out. I will get this on the go ASAP 😀

Good man! 💗

Some of it might be in your head as a self-fulfilling prophecy, you had a problem last time so you are almost anticipating a problem the next time, especially if your wife have questioned if you still find her attractive, As others suggest you might just need some low dose viagra to get things working again and break the vicious circle

blog.cornerstone.co.uk/sexual-performance-anxiety/

Many thanks everyone... long story short and it was all anxiety related. Bizarrely, she asked to separate a few weeks ago as it was clear we had become incompatible.

In some ways, I'm partly relieved, despite the hurt that the separation has caused. Time to look forward now, not backwards.

Sorry to hear that, but does sound like it was the right decision.