Is sex like this normal?

[Immychops]

When my DH and I get very 'close', and I start getting horny, I have to 'get on with it' so to speak and reach orgasm very quickly, or I lose it all very quickly. So think quickie style sex.

A slow build up doesn't often work for me and I just get really frustrated !
As a result I often orgasm before sex even happens (or at the start of it) and the rest of it is his turn ! I do still enjoy that bit but obviously I've had my turn ...

Just wondering if this is the case for anyone else? Is it a bad sign?
I guess I'm just used to reading stuff about couples having sex for hours or achieving orgasms at the exact same time, stuff like that.

Can you not orgasm again? Just wondering if this would extend the length of your sessions. I often climax earlier than DH but the fun is definitely not over at that point!

I was thinking the same about multiple orgasms

I find once I've had an orgasm I don't really get the same rush again

Once you’ve orgasmed lay off stimulation for a little while to let the sensitivity decrease (for me it’s only about a minute) then ask your DH to build back up the intensity of rubbing/thrusting/grinding. Like the others I’m guessing you’re multi orgasmic.

I try not to orgasm too quickly but it’s not always possible. I’ve not worked out how to have multiple yet as my clitoris gets really sensitive. The guy I’ve been seeing for a few months likes to have long sex sessions. Last time I saw him it was 2hrs and I used to think people who said they had sex for hours were exaggerating but now I know differently. He will pull out / change position to hold off. I don’t tend to come too easily from penetrative sex at the moment for some reason, but I can from oral etc but I still enjoy the sex a lot

This podcast might be interesting to you:

podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/shameless-sex/id1242394336?i=1000597444405

I am similar. I orgasm easiest through oral sex so often that is before penetrative sex. I still enjoy the penetration but I wouldn’t orgasm again through it. And it is rare I would orgasm from PIV alone.

Usually what happens is I orgasm through oral before PIV or if we do PIV first DH will stop part way, give me oral till I orgasm then continue with PIV. I’ve never had multiple orgasms in a session!

It's rare we orgasm at the same time but I could go for ages. I'm lucky that I don't need much of a break between orgasms before I can have another. I find a slow build can make for more intense orgasms though, rather than lots close together that are satisfying enough but not as powerful as the ones that take a while to build.

It's your normal, and that's all that matters. Your nextdoor neighbours might need 50 Shades to get off, or they might have been reading the same romantic fiction as you've mentioned. But it doesn't matter.
Are you and your OH both enjoying the sex? If yes, you're a winner. ❤️

(And no, its not unusual.)