Is the G-Spot an actual thing??

[Willow12345]

I'm 52 years old, female and have a fairly active sex life (although not as much as I would want..) I have never (as far as I'm aware) found my G-Spot and no partner I have ever been with has done anything to make me feel that he has discovered it! Be honest, is it an actual thing, or have I just been unlucky?!

The g-spot is the underside of your clitoris. The clitoris is a lot bigger than most people think and a really strange shape. www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/nov/01/the-sole-function-of-the-clitoris-is-female-orgasm-is-that-why-its-ignored-by-medical-science

Yes it is. If you put your finger in and then bring it upwards towards your tummy It's like a squishy lump that feels different to the rest of your vaginal walls. It's a different sort of orgasm to clitoral and without meaning to sound crude, it makes me " squirt". My husband puts pressure on it and moves his finger fast, that's the way I find it best stimulated.

Oh boy is it real. DH can give me orgasms by combining clitoral and G-spot stimulation that leave me needing to be peeled off the ceiling.

That's exactly how I experience it!

💯 real

and it’s all good

Well that's good to hear!! Looks like I'm going to have to show my husband where to look.. 😄
Are there any particular sex positions that people would recommend, that are good for stimulating that area?

With a bit of a warm up it can feel ribbed...for your pleasure....hope someone remembers!

The easiest way to find it would be with a finger during oral. Get him to reach in and press up gently. Like a PP said, it feels "ribbed" to me.

I can't always feel anything that feels different to my finger, but pressure on that area feels very different.

@Willow12345 position wise anything that makes his Old Fella press on the upper part of you, perhaps you on top and lean back or if you lie on the edge of the bed/sofa/kitchen table/ fallen tree trunk and he stands up?

Will definitely give that a try 😄

Your bum on a pillow perhaps. Also there's a tiktok thing about pressing on your lower abdomen during sex that is supposed to help - haven't tried it, must remember to!

Just read this good article which has given me lots of ideas..

mashable.com/article/g-spot-explained

Get your fella to give you oral and have him stimulate your g spot with the middle finger of his dominant hand, have him lick your clit and with the non-dominant hand play with your nipples.

Doggy style helps with it.

Your G-spot can move around, mine came down after giving birth, making it more accessible during missionary penetration, for example. It has popped back up again, somewhat sadly, though I am guessing my pelvic floor is the better for it.

I have never found that the 'classic' ways of stimulating it really worked for me. Doggy and prone bone for example result in cervical and fornix stimulation (which can be wonderful when v turned on, and very not when not) but not G spot stimulation which is generally achieved with fingering, angled penetration or toys designed specifically for the job. This article really explained the vaginal fornix and cervix and how much accessing it differs between women, well for me: www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/4b716o/fornix_anatomy_and_how_it_affects_piv_positions/

OMG Yes season 2 covers the G-spot, and how to find it, well.

'come hither' finger beckoning motion inside is the best way to hit mine.

As others said, it's really the other side/inside part of your clit (which is much more than the tiny tip we think of it as being)

Thanks SO much everyone. I really appreciate all the advice. I'll report back soon if I make the discovery! X

The Njoy is amazing for hitting the g spot; just the right curve and weight.

Also check out sex educator Lola Jean who has lots of helpful info... lolajean.com/writing

The lower abdomen thing is definitely real. You press down about a hands width above the pubic bone. G-spot is real too, but it's not obvious on every woman. I thought it was a myth until I was in my 40s!

The G-spot really does exist. Best to insert two fingers in as far as possible and bring them to the front of the vaginal wall, then massage gently. If your partner can massage your clitoris at the same time it will give you the most amazing orgasm. Works every time with my partner, and I can usually give her 4-5 orgasms. I never used to be able to do it with just cunnilingus or penetration. I learned this when we are both in our 60's!

I think perhaps it's not as sensitive for some people as others. I've never found it even after reading up about it. I can't feel anything squishy and wherever I apply pressure, nothing feels different or 'better'. I also don't have orgasms from PIV. Pretty sure I just don't have a sensitive g-spot at all 🤣

Lots of good advice above. The come hither movement is good.
Do get confident by yourself first before involving DP.

The 'come hither' movement is similar to what I was told some years ago - make a motion a bit like riding a bike with your fingers, but very gently. If the partner inserts two fingers (index and middle finger) as far as possible and makes a 'pedalling' motion very gently against the fleshy area at the front of the vagina, then coupled with clitoral stimulation (either using the other hand or tongue, preferably), you should find it will eventually give you a very intense orgasm. Works every time for my current partner (and for other ladies I have known....), usually within a few minutes. But, as you say, different people have different sensitivities. The G-spot absolutely, definitely, exists. My partner is unable to have conventional sex, due to bowel and liver cancer, and a colostomy, but g-spot stimulation gives her great orgasms and makes her happy.

That's so useful, thank you! I'm pretty sure my DH found my g-spot a couple of weeks ago... I had an amazingly intense orgasm that definitely felt different to normal. We will keep practising 😊