Took it too far

[WhathaveIdone2]

I've got a problem with my DH and an OM. My husband had previously been in a BDSM relationship prior to meeting me and whilst our sex life hasn't been particularly boring, I'm not as dominating as he would like. One area that we can agree on and inevitably fall back to is cuckholding, he loves the idea of another guy fucking me with him watching and this features in our fantasies most times we have sex.
I recently met a guy at one of our DC activities and my DH knows I find him attractive. Now this OM has featured in my DH fantasies quite regularly and he comments how it would be so humiliating and exciting if I had a secret affair with this guy so I thought maybe I'd give it a try. I met the OM, who is extremely attractive but a bit of a narcissist, and we kissed. It honestly just left me feeling cold as there was no emotion whatsoever and I really wouldn't want to do it again let alone anything else.
Now I don't know if I should tell my DH what happened and if I do would he be annoyed that either:

• I did it without telling him (even though it was his idea but now it feels a bit weird).
• I can no longer go along with my DH fantasies anymore as I know how cold and empty it makes me feel.

This leads into the worry we'll end up going back to boring vanilla sex as he isn't into the things I'm into (i.e. role play, me being submissive etc) and this will have a detrimental affect on our relationship.

Personally I'd cover your tracks and try to dissuade your dh from the fantasy or eg say you tried but the om didnt seem kntrigued

I think the thing that makes any fantasy so enticing is that it's exactly that- a fantasy and is totally safe and you're in complete control of where it goes and what happens. Real life is much messier and often doesn't live up to the expectation. I'd be inclined to come clean because these things can come back to bite you otherwise and you maybe need to use it as a chance to talk about your boundaries and communication. I'm guessing it's better to agree you're going to take a fantasy forwards rather than one of you just going ahead and then worrying after. So i think that's the conversation you have with your dh that you felt you were acting in the spirit of things but you're thinking it wasn't what you'd expected and you're not sure you went about it in the best way. At least then you can draw a line under it and move forward with better communication and boundaries instead of being scared to tap into your fantasies again. He might be annoyed, but you can bring it back to feeling that he'd want you to do it based on what he's told you.

The issue here is that you didn't let DH know that you intended to actually meet this guy. It's all fantasy until the point you both agree to make it a reality.

Your DH is going to keep mentioning this fantasy so I think you need to come clean about what happened.

Did the OM know that you were fulfilling a cuck fantasy? Not very fair to him if you weren't clear about DH's involvement. If you decide to do something similar again, I'd suggest you look for a potential other man on somewhere like FAB or Killing Kittens and be open about what you are seeking.

Tell him you're going to meet and kiss, then report back on your real feelings without having done anything more?