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Regretting not trying the other side.

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unstoppable1 · 17/02/2023 12:28

I'm happy to my DH and we have 2DC.

I wouldn't class myself as bisexual but I do fancy women I guess and I like to watch girl on girl porn sometimes and I bring myself off to it.

One of my regrets in life is not sleeping with a woman before I settled down. I really wish I had tried it out.

Does anyone feel like this?

OP posts:
Whataretheodds · 17/02/2023 12:30

How satisfied are you with your sex life with your husband?

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unstoppable1 · 17/02/2023 12:32

Whataretheodds · 17/02/2023 12:30

How satisfied are you with your sex life with your husband?

We've not been active in the last year due to the birth of our child ( mainly me not feeling ready ) but before that it was ok.

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Name999999 · 17/02/2023 12:34

I’d say you are bi sexual
or bi curious. But what can you do? Not worth really breaking up the marriage is it? I think perhaps time to focus on your relationship with your husband and get that back in order. Fantasy is fantasy. I often think being with a woman would be a lot easier!! We know how our minds work, in saying that all my gay friends have a lot of drama in the their lives!!

Hijinks75 · 17/02/2023 13:26

I guess lots of people are at least curious about sex with same gender and most people would have things they would have liked to have done when younger but didn’t,

SunsetStrip · 17/02/2023 13:38

There is a thread going on over in chat about bisexuality, nip over and read through it. Some people are bi, some not.

blippyissilly · 17/02/2023 18:52

Why don't you arrange a FFM

Doubt your husband will say no

Dillydollydingdong · 17/02/2023 18:54

No, I've never gone there!

cormorant5 · 17/02/2023 22:08

To many women it is a dream similar to walking up Machu Pichu or sex under the stars on a deserted island with a handsome man who has untold stamina.
When faced with reality they back out.
Sometimes they reply to Bi women on the Sex Chat Board, but they even vanish when the play gets detailed.

Op I am Bi and of mature years so PM me if really interested in more details.

JulieS1 · 26/02/2023 21:56

Is it something you can just enjoy the thoughts / imagination / dream of while heaving self play time or rather than the real thing? Ive had thoughts but the imagination has always been enough for me.

StarlightLady · 27/02/2023 12:58

I was in my 30s (but single) when I discovered my bi side, so it was much easier. It was a surprise discovery though. I have no suggestions on a way forward for those in a long term relationship. One thing I would definitely avoid is any thoughts of a threesome. Three is a crowd when trying something new and you are not an entertainment centre for others.

bedtimeisthebest · 27/02/2023 15:28

I'd never considered myself Bi although had thought about it.

When my wife and I opened up our marriage, we also started having threesome both MMF and FFM.

To begin with it was no intimate MM, although my wife did do intimate FF, until one day it just happened, as I was watching her with her FwB. She was giving him a BJ, I had an erection and started to masturbate, as had happened before, and he said 'let me help you with that, and he started to give me a BJ.

It was a massive turn on and happens both with him and the couple with benefits we have.

LikeMindedLady · 27/02/2023 19:34

@unstoppable1 plenty of women feel like this and perimenopause / kids growing up and not needing quite so much of your time is a prime time for all those 'what am I missing out on' thoughts to crop up.

Sometimes just having an outlet to talk about and acknowledge your curiosity is enough. I know several women exploring this part of their sexuality in their 40s.

Exploring doesn't mean you have to do anything about it. Maybe it's just a nice daydream or a fantasy to talk about with your OH. Maybe chatting with other women, sharing book / film recommendations etc.

RabbitSocks · 27/02/2023 21:30

Yes yes yes. But even once you are in a position to ‘make up lost time’, it’s not that easy to find similar women near you (well maybe in london or Brighton it is but not where I am!)

Does it feel like a lacking? Or could you, for example, share the fantasy/porn with your DH and scratch the itch that way?

Catullus5 · 28/02/2023 04:15

blippyissilly · 17/02/2023 18:52

Why don't you arrange a FFM

Doubt your husband will say no

This one would! Spoilsport that I am. But I hope I would make up for it in other ways.

LikeMindedLady · 28/02/2023 18:57

A 3some is a very complicated way to experience f/f sex and a very different kind of sex to being intimate with someone 1:1

Physically (who's doing what to who, what's the other person doing) they're a bit awkward and the emotional complexity of how you/ your partner feel seeing their OH having sex with someone, alongside how to treat the third person respectfully and how to all communicate what you want / don't want / aren't comfortable with is dangerous territory.

Unless you specifically like the idea of seeing your partner with someone else I would avoid!

HappyHumpDay · 28/02/2023 19:08

Yes! And I had a similar conversation with my other half last year and since then have been exploring those opportunities I thought I’d missed.

There was an amazing thread on here last year about finding ‘Like Minded Women’ and turns out there are quite a few of us. It had been running for a couple of years and the OP of that thread started a separate group for everyone to chat. It’s been such an amazing source of help - just being able to talk to people in a similar situation.

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