I bought some stuff to try but nervous how to bring it up

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DH and I have been married for a good while. Small kids are now a little bigger and all sleeping. We went away for a kid free night and had absolutely mind blowing sex. The type we haven't had for years. We talked about experimenting more, getting some toys and trying new things but then... he didn't do anything about it.
It's been brought up mutually a few times since (usually during great sex) and again.. he does nothing about it,

So I have bought a bunch of stuff to try (toys, lubes) and some naice undies to go with it (bye granny pants). It's all in a box under my bed because I don't know how to bring this up and I don't really know how to instigate any of this! Do I wrap up the box and give it to him? Do I just randomly pull a toy out next time we're in bed together? We can be quite open and vocal about sex and what we want whilst we are doing it... but it's not the sort of thing we chat about with clothes on.

Any advice would be very welcome because I am busting a gut to play with these new goodies

@StarlightLady I have just started throwing away my post kid undies and upgrading them for nice ones. I forgot how empowering it feels to be wearing lovely lace! Over my next few pay periods I'm going to do a total annihilation of my granny pants and upgrade them for ones that make me feel amazing.

OP, celebration bonfire perhaps.

If it’s any help/guidance, l always buy 2 pairs of matching knix when l buy a new bra; in deep burgundy underneath as l type. John Lewis sales can be a good starting point. And Ebay can come up with some bargains. I don’t always match to be honest but l aspire to. Bin anything that gets tatty.

@StarlightLady some of these undies definitely deserve a burning send off!

I am dedicated to upgrading my undergarments!

Feel a bit deflated about DH lack of curiosity with the box. However, I recognise that just because I've rediscovered this part of me it's not an expectation that he will suddenly want to leap in. I'm excited to have solo toys if it's not his cup of tea

I've just spent a small fortune on fancy pants

He might just be a little nervous, if its a big change from his normal sexual life he might be apprehensive that he doesn't want to use/try something and get it wrong.

Are there toys just for him in the box aswell as for you both? He might just need a few hours alone to explore what he has to work with before he feels confident enough, maybe if he is home alone ask him to have a look in the box and choose you a toy for you to explore when you get home.

Even if you are confident with how they work pretend you aren't and ask him if he thinks you are using it right or ask him to hold it in a certain way.

It could just be the nudge he needs to get going. I remember my wife showing me her dildo when we got together, it was my first experience with one and I was nervous. Now I'm fully in to the experience of toys!

Aw thanks @Yorkieboy. We had a little chat last night and talked through some feelings. It was very positive and the doors of exploration were firmly opened.

I'm so happy.