What age is sex over?

[Midsummernightmare]

I’m a woman in mid fifties, my male partner is the same age and we’ve been together about 4 years now. It’s becoming apparent to me that my sex drive is much higher than his, despite me entering the menopause within the last year.
He had an issue in our first year together where he didn’t seem interested, after me instigating the conversation it turned out he was very stressed at work and couldn’t get ‘the feeling’, happily that resolved itself after a few months.
We are at the point again where he just doesn’t seem interested. Last month I instigated sex on both Saturday and Sunday morning that weekend which was enjoyable for both of us ( I think) but we’ve had nothing since then, and it always seems to be down to me to start things off. I’m not expecting it 3 times a day but is once a week too much to ask?
Not sure we’re on the same page at all tbh, I’ll happily give him oral but he won’t do it for me, doesn’t want to dabble with sex toys, likes to talk the talk and tell stories about his wild days in the past occasionally but doesn’t seem remotely adventurous about our bedroom antics, doesn’t even want to discuss it really. He knows I’m not averse to a bit of spanking and has tried it once or twice but he’s not really doing it right and doesn’t seem inclined to research it at all so it’s kind of fizzled out. I have tried right from the start to ask what he likes eg certain lingerie, porn, positions etc but he hasn’t given any definite answers, just says do/ wear what you’re comfortable with.
So am I expecting too much or should there still be life ok the old dog yet?

IMHO men and women remain sexually attractive as long as they're interested and interesting. Perhaps more jumping off the chest of drawers than the top of the wardrobe, but I remember a poster here mentioning her parents in their eighties being very active.

There are certainly men who find women in their 70s attractive. It might not be the men you want, they could be in their 40s for example.

Relationship-wise, idk how easy it is. But sex wise, I know some men feel the appeal of a far older woman.

Have always been attracted to older.women. i think the biggest turn ons are confidence and enthusiasm really. The women I know who will talk openly about sexual desires and flirt and be exciting have always been the most attractive.to me

Never felt nerdy enough to follow it up, but are there just as many DHs complaining about DWs no longer being interested as vice versa and can't we all just line up face to face and take one step to the left ?

I’ve never been overly fussed with it and can take it or leave it now to be honest.